Are you a shy person

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Hi all are you a shy person.
I am an unbelievably shy person to the point of im all most mute in public.
I cringe at alot of things its silly i know.

However when im on holiday abroad im a completely different person chatting talking no cringing only the odd bit not shy.
When i arrive back home im back to being a mole.
Anyone else like me with shyness.

Im not a shy person at all but I definitely feel more confident on holiday like what im wearing and activities I do. There's something about being around people you don't know and who don't know you and you will never see again it means you can feel free to act however you want without judgement

I find it's easy (ish) not to be shy among complete strangers and good friends. But among people I partly know, such as colleagues and wider circle friends - it's a nightmare. Then I either perform calm, outgoing confidence until I am exhausted, or I silently flee.

I’m exactly the same I’m painfully shy and I’m finding it’s getting worse as I get older 😩

Yes I am the same, I am not sure if it’s culture in Uk… I’m not from here but I noticed people abroad are nicer to approach and have conversations with..

I was labelled ‘shy’ as a little girl - only child, keen reader, being ‘good’ was quite an admired quality so fell into that mould When I was about 15 I read a magazine article (possibly around the shy Di era, think it was Cosmo or similar) suggesting ‘shy’ people could be perceived as being self obsessed, too worried about what other people thought of them. It resonated with me, I followed the advice and began taking more interest in others and putting those well honed good manners into adult practice ie making other people feel comfortable. It worked for me. I still like my own company though.

Yes definitely shy and definitely find it easier to talk to people where i know im only going to see them once or for a short while.
I have tried everything and honestly i dont think its something about me that will change. I out myself in positions purposely where I have to talk more etc but its so excruciating and exhausting and its not helping at all unfortunately.

I used to be. Then one day I decided I didn't want to be shy so I stopped and now I rarely get feelings that I'm shy. Feel the fear and do it anyway.

Yes I have always been shy and hate any attention being on me. I hate chatting in big social situations. The only time I am not shy is with good friends or work colleagues that I know well.
I wish I could change but I'm in my forties and have been this way since 4 years old.