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Neighbour has not paid and then cut us off

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Neighbourproblem23 · 14/07/2025 03:32

I need some perspective on this. I don’t want to give too much info as it may be outing. My next door neighbour has not paid for her share of garden work. The gardener was in our garden and knocked on her door to see if she wanted her side doing too. She and I had previously said next time we would get the same person to do it as it made sense, so it was always on the cards. She said yes to the gardener and he was there hours and did a huge amount on her side. He left two invoices with my Dad (one for us, a lot more, one for her).

My dad arranged for our work while we were overseas and so paid the gardener for her invoice as well because he is a kind and generous man and thought it would make life easier for everyone. He went round to knock and give her the invoice but she was not there.

Neighbour has now disappeared off overseas and looks like her house is SSTC. No contact anymore on whatsapp. She, I thought, was a friend. We made contact with her family member (also a friend we thought) who keeps saying neighbour will get in touch but it has been 6 weeks. However she has form for doing things like this to others. When my dad told me he had paid my heart sank.

I have paid my dad back. It is “only” 190 pounds. Initially I was so cross I wanted to do a small claim but given my dad has paid the invoice it I am not sure whether there would be grounds. I think we just want to leave it and accept she is not a nice person but the sense of justice in me keeps coming back.

What would you do? I think I could probably come to terms with it more easily if she had had the decency to get in touch, knowing she has seen our messages via family member.

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FrodoBiggins · 14/07/2025 03:39

Ugh how annoying.
I know you have to declare any disputes with neighbours when selling (I think it might be an offence not to), so I wonder if it's worth a shitty message to the family member you're in touch with, to say you hope that the neighbour declared the outstanding debt and dispute with your household during the process of selling her house, because if she doesn't you'll get in touch with the agents and buyers in due course and let them know she failed to declare it. If she wants to avoid you doing so and jeopardising the sale, she can pay urgently

FrodoBiggins · 14/07/2025 03:40

I would perhaps send a similar message directly to her

Neighbourproblem23 · 14/07/2025 03:43

Thank you I will look into it. That had not occurred to me!

Sadly I don't have a contact for her as her number seems to be "not working" despite years of messaging previously. I could let the estate agents know though! I guess the question is fo my own wellbeing do I really care enough. Would it affect any future sale we make?

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Pigmoondotcom · 14/07/2025 04:02

Neighbourproblem23 · 14/07/2025 03:43

Thank you I will look into it. That had not occurred to me!

Sadly I don't have a contact for her as her number seems to be "not working" despite years of messaging previously. I could let the estate agents know though! I guess the question is fo my own wellbeing do I really care enough. Would it affect any future sale we make?

She’s probably blocked you, can you text her from a friend’s phone? Or your husband if she doesn’t know that number?

WhatsApp has actually proactively updated me when friends have changed phone numbers, even when it’s from one country to another.

FrodoBiggins · 14/07/2025 04:18

Neighbourproblem23 · 14/07/2025 03:43

Thank you I will look into it. That had not occurred to me!

Sadly I don't have a contact for her as her number seems to be "not working" despite years of messaging previously. I could let the estate agents know though! I guess the question is fo my own wellbeing do I really care enough. Would it affect any future sale we make?

I don't know and I can't give any actually advice on it, I'm only aware cos it's on my mind as we're selling and we were just required to fill out a form declaring disputes. But my GUESS would be no, it wouldn't affect your future sale, because you'd have no dispute with the new neighbour.
And you don't actually have to go through with contacting estate agents either, if you're worried about that. It might just be worth telling the mutual friend that that's what you're planning to do, and see if that makes the money appear. If it doesn't, you can decide if you actually want to escalate. But if I were your neighbour (I would never be such a CF though!) I wouldn't want to try to call your bluff if my house sale was at risk and I would pay!

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