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Help me decide how to retrain/change careers please!

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burntoutandexhausted · 13/07/2025 19:53

Been in admin then recruitment then HR since finishing uni 20 years ago (did a business degree). Been working as a HR Manager for about 10 years after working my way up in current company. Have worked in a few other places too.
The more senior I get the more burnt out I feel trying to solve other people’s problems and taking on a lot of mental health issues, the company just isn’t changing to support the staff. But I know that HR anywhere else will feel just the same. Same shit different place.. I just keep feeling that something needs to change but my work won’t be the thing that will change. So I need to do it.

I am now in a position where I can start thinking about retraining, but I genuinely don’t know where to start! Always thought I’d like to work in a hospital or as a nurse but I would need to do an access degree course as I’ve been out of education for so long. Have been in and out of hospital as a teenager so feel very comfortable in them.
I know the job market is rubbish at the moment - especially for jobs like mine - so am I shooting myself in the foot for changing and risking the “comfort” I have in my current place? Flexibility, nice team, helped build me up. Do I just stick it out? But for how long?!

But now is time for a change I think.

Some key things i like/don’t like/can’t do:
Always been a “mother hen” type figure helping people out since I was a child/teen
Don’t want any out of hours calls/working overtime without pay
Dont have loads of money to pay for a course, or money to stop work to study full time
Love chatting with people and the “customer service” part of the job
Don’t mind managing people so am indifferent to this
Dont want to feel like I’m lining someone’s pockets or being disingenuous
Not very creative or crafty
I want to feel like I’m doing something worthwhile
Would love a job with fewer emails and meetings
Not bothered about using my degree
I am not very good with data/numbers/spreadsheets and avoid them at all costs
Don’t mind being on my feet
Dont mind a complete change from an office job
Have worked with children in the past and also in the third sector which I enjoyed

Can anyone help suggest what I could do next?

OP posts:
Foodylicious · 14/07/2025 06:24

Well, I just put your text in chat gtp and it came up with this

Thank you for sharing all that so honestly — it sounds like you're at a really pivotal moment, and it's understandable to feel torn. You've clearly built a solid career in HR, but the emotional toll, lack of systemic change, and stagnation are pushing you to seek something more fulfilling and aligned with your values. The good news? You're not starting from scratch — you're starting from experience.

Here’s a breakdown based on what you've shared, followed by specific job and retraining suggestions that could realistically work for you.

🌟 Your Priorities & Strengths
From what you've said, here’s what stands out:

You’re a people person — nurturing, compassionate, good listener, and love helping others.

You want purpose, not profit — something that feels worthwhile and genuinely helps people.

You’re done with corporate burnout, especially unappreciated emotional labour and endless emails/meetings.

You don’t want to be on-call or work unpaid overtime.

You can’t afford to quit and study full-time.

You’re comfortable in a hospital or similar caring environment.

You’d consider retraining, as long as it’s realistic.

🎯 Key Themes for Your Career Change

  1. Care-Based, Purpose-Driven Work
You like helping people in meaningful ways — especially one-on-one. This is a huge asset in many care-related or support roles.
  1. Practical Over Corporate
You’d prefer hands-on, people-facing work over a desk job. That rules out office-based retraining or anything heavily digital/data-driven.
  1. Stability + Flexibility
You want structure, paid work, and ideally a regular schedule. So something like agency work, shift-based roles, or NHS banded roles could fit.

🔍 Career Options That Could Suit You
Here are realistic options based on your needs, finances, and transferable skills:

✅ 1. Healthcare Support Roles (NHS Band 2-4)
No degree required to start, just some short training or a paid apprenticeship.

Healthcare Assistant (HCA) or Maternity Support Worker

Works in hospitals or community settings.

Support nurses/doctors with basic care duties (not clinical).

Often patient-facing, fulfilling, team-based.

Entry via NHS jobs or apprenticeships.

Could progress into nursing or midwifery later if you choose.

Mental Health Support Worker

Focused more on emotional support, especially in community or hospital mental health services.

Would link to your HR background supporting staff with MH issues.

No need to retrain first — many roles train on the job.

NHS Apprenticeships

Get paid while training in support roles, including nursing associate (Band 4) — a good stepping stone to becoming a nurse later.

✅ 2. Occupational Therapy Assistant or Physiotherapy Assistant
Similar to HCA but often more hands-on rehabilitation.

Often work one-on-one with patients to help them regain independence.

More structured work, less emotional burden than full nursing roles.

On-the-job training or short courses.

✅ 3. Youth or Family Support Worker (Local Authority or Charities)
Work with children, families, or vulnerable people.

Often in schools, care homes, or community centres.

Would connect well with your past third-sector and child work.

Local councils or charities often train you on the job or need Level 3 qualifications (can study part-time or online cheaply).

✅ 4. School or College Support Roles
Pastoral Care Officer, Student Wellbeing Support, School Attendance Officer etc.

Daytime hours, holidays off, lots of direct support for children/teens.

Often need safeguarding or basic care qualifications (or just experience).

✅ 5. Non-Clinical NHS Admin Roles
Still a change from corporate HR, but more grounded in patient-facing impact.

Think: Patient Liaison Officer, Bereavement Officer, or Hospital Chaplaincy Support.

Fewer emails/meetings than corporate roles, often more structured.

🔁 Retraining or Transition Paths (Low Cost / Flexible)
Here are realistic routes for someone like you:

🔹 Access to HE Diploma (Health or Nursing)
Needed if you want to become a nurse, midwife, or other regulated healthcare worker later.

One year part-time or online, often government funded.

You can do this while working, then apply for a funded nursing degree (with bursary support).

🔹 Level 3 Diploma in Health & Social Care
Recognised for many support roles.

Often available via part-time online study.

Could also find work first and have an employer support you to complete it.

🔹 Apprenticeships (Health and Social Care / NHS)
No age limit.

Paid while you train.

Look on NHS Jobs or local trust websites.

🔹 NHS Training Roles or Step into Work Programmes
Many NHS Trusts offer return-to-work or career changer entry programs, especially targeting mature applicants.

Some aimed specifically at people transitioning from corporate roles.

🧭 What Might Help You Decide?
Here are some next steps to get clarity without making a huge leap yet:

  1. Look at Real Job Listings
Search on:

NHS Jobs

CharityJob

[Local council websites]

See what interests you, what qualifications they want, and how much they pay.

  1. Volunteer or Shadow for a Day or Two
A taster in:

A hospital ward (many accept volunteers)

A care home

A school pastoral support team
Could help confirm or rule out options.

  1. Talk to People Doing the Job
Use LinkedIn or ask your network. Most people are happy to chat for 15 minutes about how they got into their role.

✋ Final Thoughts
You’re not crazy to want to leave HR. You’ve done your time, and it’s totally valid to want a more direct, caring, less bureaucratic kind of work.

And you’re not starting from zero. You’ve got 20 years of people skills, problem solving, emotional support, and real-life experience.

It’s also wise that you’re not making this decision on impulse — you’re grounded, realistic, and thoughtful about money, flexibility, and retraining.

If you want, I can help you:

Identify funding options

Find suitable part-time online access courses

Build a step-by-step action plan

Would that be helpful?

stayathomer · 14/07/2025 06:27

I think there’s a huge demand for what you’d like to do (to me it does scream nurse/ social work/ even retail)- the thing is I’d say you need to weigh up salary expectations, you will very likely drop right down pay wise so it’s to see if you can afford that

MoominUnderWater · 14/07/2025 06:41

If you do consider nursing it’s probably worth talking to your local university to see if they would insist on an access course or whether they’d be happy that you have a degree already even though ages ago. The thing about recent study used to be rigorously enforced but applicant numbers have fallen off a cliff so less enforced now.

Interested in this thread?

Then you might like threads about this subject:

Prayingforananswer · 14/07/2025 06:42
  1. Stay where you are, but do some volunteering or take up a hobby where you can meet and help people.
  2. You may not need to do an Access to Degree studies course. If there's something you're interested in, check if an online Post-Grad certificate or diploma is available. You can then use your annual leave to attend in-person tuition days or complete assignments.
  3. If you change jobs be prepared for a huge salary drop. You might like Recruitment or see if it's possible to move into a Staff Training & Development position with your current employer.
  4. Unpopular choice, but you might like being a (very empathetic) Benefits Officer at DWP.
Summmeeerrrrisherenearly030933939 · 14/07/2025 06:47

Foodylicious · 14/07/2025 06:24

Well, I just put your text in chat gtp and it came up with this

Thank you for sharing all that so honestly — it sounds like you're at a really pivotal moment, and it's understandable to feel torn. You've clearly built a solid career in HR, but the emotional toll, lack of systemic change, and stagnation are pushing you to seek something more fulfilling and aligned with your values. The good news? You're not starting from scratch — you're starting from experience.

Here’s a breakdown based on what you've shared, followed by specific job and retraining suggestions that could realistically work for you.

🌟 Your Priorities & Strengths
From what you've said, here’s what stands out:

You’re a people person — nurturing, compassionate, good listener, and love helping others.

You want purpose, not profit — something that feels worthwhile and genuinely helps people.

You’re done with corporate burnout, especially unappreciated emotional labour and endless emails/meetings.

You don’t want to be on-call or work unpaid overtime.

You can’t afford to quit and study full-time.

You’re comfortable in a hospital or similar caring environment.

You’d consider retraining, as long as it’s realistic.

🎯 Key Themes for Your Career Change

  1. Care-Based, Purpose-Driven Work
You like helping people in meaningful ways — especially one-on-one. This is a huge asset in many care-related or support roles.
  1. Practical Over Corporate
You’d prefer hands-on, people-facing work over a desk job. That rules out office-based retraining or anything heavily digital/data-driven.
  1. Stability + Flexibility
You want structure, paid work, and ideally a regular schedule. So something like agency work, shift-based roles, or NHS banded roles could fit.

🔍 Career Options That Could Suit You
Here are realistic options based on your needs, finances, and transferable skills:

✅ 1. Healthcare Support Roles (NHS Band 2-4)
No degree required to start, just some short training or a paid apprenticeship.

Healthcare Assistant (HCA) or Maternity Support Worker

Works in hospitals or community settings.

Support nurses/doctors with basic care duties (not clinical).

Often patient-facing, fulfilling, team-based.

Entry via NHS jobs or apprenticeships.

Could progress into nursing or midwifery later if you choose.

Mental Health Support Worker

Focused more on emotional support, especially in community or hospital mental health services.

Would link to your HR background supporting staff with MH issues.

No need to retrain first — many roles train on the job.

NHS Apprenticeships

Get paid while training in support roles, including nursing associate (Band 4) — a good stepping stone to becoming a nurse later.

✅ 2. Occupational Therapy Assistant or Physiotherapy Assistant
Similar to HCA but often more hands-on rehabilitation.

Often work one-on-one with patients to help them regain independence.

More structured work, less emotional burden than full nursing roles.

On-the-job training or short courses.

✅ 3. Youth or Family Support Worker (Local Authority or Charities)
Work with children, families, or vulnerable people.

Often in schools, care homes, or community centres.

Would connect well with your past third-sector and child work.

Local councils or charities often train you on the job or need Level 3 qualifications (can study part-time or online cheaply).

✅ 4. School or College Support Roles
Pastoral Care Officer, Student Wellbeing Support, School Attendance Officer etc.

Daytime hours, holidays off, lots of direct support for children/teens.

Often need safeguarding or basic care qualifications (or just experience).

✅ 5. Non-Clinical NHS Admin Roles
Still a change from corporate HR, but more grounded in patient-facing impact.

Think: Patient Liaison Officer, Bereavement Officer, or Hospital Chaplaincy Support.

Fewer emails/meetings than corporate roles, often more structured.

🔁 Retraining or Transition Paths (Low Cost / Flexible)
Here are realistic routes for someone like you:

🔹 Access to HE Diploma (Health or Nursing)
Needed if you want to become a nurse, midwife, or other regulated healthcare worker later.

One year part-time or online, often government funded.

You can do this while working, then apply for a funded nursing degree (with bursary support).

🔹 Level 3 Diploma in Health & Social Care
Recognised for many support roles.

Often available via part-time online study.

Could also find work first and have an employer support you to complete it.

🔹 Apprenticeships (Health and Social Care / NHS)
No age limit.

Paid while you train.

Look on NHS Jobs or local trust websites.

🔹 NHS Training Roles or Step into Work Programmes
Many NHS Trusts offer return-to-work or career changer entry programs, especially targeting mature applicants.

Some aimed specifically at people transitioning from corporate roles.

🧭 What Might Help You Decide?
Here are some next steps to get clarity without making a huge leap yet:

  1. Look at Real Job Listings
Search on:

NHS Jobs

CharityJob

[Local council websites]

See what interests you, what qualifications they want, and how much they pay.

  1. Volunteer or Shadow for a Day or Two
A taster in:

A hospital ward (many accept volunteers)

A care home

A school pastoral support team
Could help confirm or rule out options.

  1. Talk to People Doing the Job
Use LinkedIn or ask your network. Most people are happy to chat for 15 minutes about how they got into their role.

✋ Final Thoughts
You’re not crazy to want to leave HR. You’ve done your time, and it’s totally valid to want a more direct, caring, less bureaucratic kind of work.

And you’re not starting from zero. You’ve got 20 years of people skills, problem solving, emotional support, and real-life experience.

It’s also wise that you’re not making this decision on impulse — you’re grounded, realistic, and thoughtful about money, flexibility, and retraining.

If you want, I can help you:

Identify funding options

Find suitable part-time online access courses

Build a step-by-step action plan

Would that be helpful?

I’m sure the OP could have done that herself!

PermanentTemporary · 14/07/2025 06:55

Hoping nobody else will quote the veeeeery long ChatGPT response…

I do think nursing sounds pretty perfect for you and would get on to the RCN website and your local training provider to find out more about training routes. I retrained in my very late 30s and qualified as an AHP at 42 and thank goodness I did, it’s given me purposeful work and a qualification I can use in multiple ways.

FourLove · 14/07/2025 07:08

@Foodylicious Please not more AI. It’s too rambling and tedious to read. What do you think OP might do next?

Cheeseplantandcrackers · 14/07/2025 07:10

Foodylicious · 14/07/2025 06:24

Well, I just put your text in chat gtp and it came up with this

Thank you for sharing all that so honestly — it sounds like you're at a really pivotal moment, and it's understandable to feel torn. You've clearly built a solid career in HR, but the emotional toll, lack of systemic change, and stagnation are pushing you to seek something more fulfilling and aligned with your values. The good news? You're not starting from scratch — you're starting from experience.

Here’s a breakdown based on what you've shared, followed by specific job and retraining suggestions that could realistically work for you.

🌟 Your Priorities & Strengths
From what you've said, here’s what stands out:

You’re a people person — nurturing, compassionate, good listener, and love helping others.

You want purpose, not profit — something that feels worthwhile and genuinely helps people.

You’re done with corporate burnout, especially unappreciated emotional labour and endless emails/meetings.

You don’t want to be on-call or work unpaid overtime.

You can’t afford to quit and study full-time.

You’re comfortable in a hospital or similar caring environment.

You’d consider retraining, as long as it’s realistic.

🎯 Key Themes for Your Career Change

  1. Care-Based, Purpose-Driven Work
You like helping people in meaningful ways — especially one-on-one. This is a huge asset in many care-related or support roles.
  1. Practical Over Corporate
You’d prefer hands-on, people-facing work over a desk job. That rules out office-based retraining or anything heavily digital/data-driven.
  1. Stability + Flexibility
You want structure, paid work, and ideally a regular schedule. So something like agency work, shift-based roles, or NHS banded roles could fit.

🔍 Career Options That Could Suit You
Here are realistic options based on your needs, finances, and transferable skills:

✅ 1. Healthcare Support Roles (NHS Band 2-4)
No degree required to start, just some short training or a paid apprenticeship.

Healthcare Assistant (HCA) or Maternity Support Worker

Works in hospitals or community settings.

Support nurses/doctors with basic care duties (not clinical).

Often patient-facing, fulfilling, team-based.

Entry via NHS jobs or apprenticeships.

Could progress into nursing or midwifery later if you choose.

Mental Health Support Worker

Focused more on emotional support, especially in community or hospital mental health services.

Would link to your HR background supporting staff with MH issues.

No need to retrain first — many roles train on the job.

NHS Apprenticeships

Get paid while training in support roles, including nursing associate (Band 4) — a good stepping stone to becoming a nurse later.

✅ 2. Occupational Therapy Assistant or Physiotherapy Assistant
Similar to HCA but often more hands-on rehabilitation.

Often work one-on-one with patients to help them regain independence.

More structured work, less emotional burden than full nursing roles.

On-the-job training or short courses.

✅ 3. Youth or Family Support Worker (Local Authority or Charities)
Work with children, families, or vulnerable people.

Often in schools, care homes, or community centres.

Would connect well with your past third-sector and child work.

Local councils or charities often train you on the job or need Level 3 qualifications (can study part-time or online cheaply).

✅ 4. School or College Support Roles
Pastoral Care Officer, Student Wellbeing Support, School Attendance Officer etc.

Daytime hours, holidays off, lots of direct support for children/teens.

Often need safeguarding or basic care qualifications (or just experience).

✅ 5. Non-Clinical NHS Admin Roles
Still a change from corporate HR, but more grounded in patient-facing impact.

Think: Patient Liaison Officer, Bereavement Officer, or Hospital Chaplaincy Support.

Fewer emails/meetings than corporate roles, often more structured.

🔁 Retraining or Transition Paths (Low Cost / Flexible)
Here are realistic routes for someone like you:

🔹 Access to HE Diploma (Health or Nursing)
Needed if you want to become a nurse, midwife, or other regulated healthcare worker later.

One year part-time or online, often government funded.

You can do this while working, then apply for a funded nursing degree (with bursary support).

🔹 Level 3 Diploma in Health & Social Care
Recognised for many support roles.

Often available via part-time online study.

Could also find work first and have an employer support you to complete it.

🔹 Apprenticeships (Health and Social Care / NHS)
No age limit.

Paid while you train.

Look on NHS Jobs or local trust websites.

🔹 NHS Training Roles or Step into Work Programmes
Many NHS Trusts offer return-to-work or career changer entry programs, especially targeting mature applicants.

Some aimed specifically at people transitioning from corporate roles.

🧭 What Might Help You Decide?
Here are some next steps to get clarity without making a huge leap yet:

  1. Look at Real Job Listings
Search on:

NHS Jobs

CharityJob

[Local council websites]

See what interests you, what qualifications they want, and how much they pay.

  1. Volunteer or Shadow for a Day or Two
A taster in:

A hospital ward (many accept volunteers)

A care home

A school pastoral support team
Could help confirm or rule out options.

  1. Talk to People Doing the Job
Use LinkedIn or ask your network. Most people are happy to chat for 15 minutes about how they got into their role.

✋ Final Thoughts
You’re not crazy to want to leave HR. You’ve done your time, and it’s totally valid to want a more direct, caring, less bureaucratic kind of work.

And you’re not starting from zero. You’ve got 20 years of people skills, problem solving, emotional support, and real-life experience.

It’s also wise that you’re not making this decision on impulse — you’re grounded, realistic, and thoughtful about money, flexibility, and retraining.

If you want, I can help you:

Identify funding options

Find suitable part-time online access courses

Build a step-by-step action plan

Would that be helpful?

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