Feel anxious about the summer for DS...friends stuff

[Potatoesfried]

I've namechanged for this. I don't know I'm feeling anxious about it but I am. DS has friends...dotted here and there. A couple of close ones. But there's no 'group' and I often feel he puts himself out there, makes an effort but doesn't get a huge amount back. He spends a fair bit of time alone, which he seems ok with but I worry.

And now holidays are looming. We're away for a bit but not enough. I work, so can't be around during the day. His DF will be for a bit and will do stuff with him

But I guess it's a broader question about friendships. I see some of these kids with lots of firm friends, big groups. I think he'd like that, but it seems out of reach currently. What can I do about any of the above?

I think this is so common. How old is your DS? My guess is year 7/8? That seems to be the age where they struggle with friendship groups.

Really I think the best thing you can do is to leave him to find his own way. If he’s not primary age then you can’t get involved. Just don’t let him pick up on your concerns. He might spend a lot of time on his own this summer but that can all change really quickly.

DS was struggling in years 7, 8 and 9 but the last 2 years have been so different. He’s got lots of mates now, always out and about.

Your DS will get there.