Back ground: dd has been through quite alot. Domestic violence. Heavy involvement with social services. She also has bipolar. She has a child with autism.whos 7 and a 2 year old with special needs although no diagnosis. But his development is very behinde hes more like a 9-10 month old .
My own back ground. I have 6 kids dd28 , ds22 ds18 dd15 , ds10 , ds9 .
I have also been throgh alot with what went on with dd with the DV stuff. She was heavily supported by me. Which was needed at the time. I also had Dv situation myself that was from my so to me it was an absolutely awful time which went on for quite a long time. Ds is in a much better place now.
Dd28 is also in a better place shes been much more settled over the past couple of years and she's safe. Has friends who she spends time with.
Since gs who's now 7 was 2 months old I looked after him 3 days week whilst his mum went to the gym once he started nursery at 3.5 the gym baby sitting slowed down but I still had him alot due to the DV and dd was at mine alot for safety reasons support reasons. So obviously that's a special situation. Then dd had GS who's now 2 and again since he's been about 2 months old i have had him 3 times week whilst dd gos gym. Its not just whilst shes at gym though because her child gos to the same school as mine she ends up at my house till its time to go on the school run.
Dd is hard work generally i don't know if its apart of the bipolar or not but everything is dramatised. Like she will tell me the 7 year okd has been getting out of bed all night he won't settle and she's ranting like mad and she's sounding like she cant cope . Then I will ask ds who's with her and he will say he as in gs got up once asked for a drink. Ds had also send me videos of dd laughing with het friends seconds after she's sent me messages saying how bad things are. Or the neighbour is banging shit out of her door. Ds said she rang the bell twice and walked off. She's done it over more important stuff to . So i have been worried sick about things and some of it has not been true.
She also says things like . Im entitled to a break. I have a right to go out without the kids uts her right . She told a friend tjat she was going tl tell me about myself because she has a rigjt to go out. Baring in mind I baby sit at least 3 times a week plus maybe once a month over nigjt give or take.
I know I have probably come across as a slag dd of session. I dont mean to I just dont know how else to explain it . I do love her to bits and the grand kids.
But im also tired physically mentally etc. Im not old . I dont work . But im just so so tired and I want to have time on my owm I want to deal with my own stuff I feel like i want to be selfish. But I also dont want to be horrible to dd but she is entitled to 15hrs free nursery for the 2 year old she doesn't want to do it though. Which I understand but I dont want to have gs 3 times week anymore.
Am I being a cow should I just carry on for another year . He will be in nursery by then.