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AllThisBatshitteryAndMore · 11/07/2025 16:07

I gave up my office job, and tried to start my own business. Ive just done my books and the past 6 months have generated £44 after taking out all my supplies and mileage etc. I am so embarassed after all my talk of working for myself, I have absolutely stuffed it. I am living off savings and another PT job, but wow, I feel so stupid. So what do I do now? Admit to everyone its awful and throw in the towel or suck it up?

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overthehillsandverynear · 12/07/2025 10:03

I guess you need to work out if you don't like it because you genuinely don't like it or because you are not making enough money. I could certainly put up with 1-2 hours of a noisy chaotic party if I was getting several hundred pounds a time! And I'm a socially awkward introvert who hates the heat.
I have a musical friend who entertains at small parties and small classes for younger children independently, she also has arrangements with a few private nurseries to go in and teach/entertain for short regular sessions.
Also have a relative who heads up a local kids party franchise and does very, very well. There is money to be made.

AllThisBatshitteryAndMore · 12/07/2025 10:04

TourdeFrance25 · 12/07/2025 03:34

Oh just stop it. You're being rude & dramatic now. You started being a kids entertainer, not building an empire employing thousands. No one's going to care if you stop doing it.

you're not enjoying it, just stop doing it ! Get a job, get some money coming in & then decide 'what next'

maybe something WFH or a different 'work for yourself' (dog walking?)

Who are you? I'm not one of your children or servants. I'm not rude or dramatic, and why do you think I should be dog walking as if its all I can do? Mm?

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AndSoFinally · 12/07/2025 10:05

I still want to know why it's too hot. Is just because it's outside (get a gazebo?) or are you wearing some sort of mascot costume?!

Hobnobswantshernameback · 12/07/2025 10:07

I'm not sure children's entertainer is the right job for you on several levels

Pickone · 12/07/2025 10:08

Why would it be embarrassing to stop doing a job you don't enjoy?

overthehillsandverynear · 12/07/2025 10:12

Sorry, I wasn't quite clear - I meant, would it be an option for you like my friend to stay in a similar sphere but adapt? The parties for little ones are are lovely. Much smaller numbers and they are awed by a bubble machine and not fighting each other with balloons! Also saw a great party once which was dance-focused for 8-9 year olds, they learnt choreography and rehearsed it together. It was the most civilised kids party I'd seen in a while!

Merryoldgoat · 12/07/2025 10:12

My only comment would be that it’s a bit odd to leave a job to start your own business completely out of the blue, especially one you don’t seem to have done previously.

I would get back to an office job and then think about starting something up on the side that you can then develop into a business if you so choose.

AllThisBatshitteryAndMore · 12/07/2025 10:12

Thank you everyone - the nice peeps that understood me. I will be looking for other work soon...

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tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz · 12/07/2025 10:15

OP had you always had a burning desire to be a kids entertainer? Otherwise I’m wondering of all the new business ideas to give up (boring but that’s life) a steady job for why you picked it? …

gottalottodo · 12/07/2025 10:19

Do what everyone else does when they don’t like a job, get a new one!

Kisskiss · 12/07/2025 10:26

AllThisBatshitteryAndMore · 11/07/2025 16:21

I get £20 an hour

Where are you? I just went to a party in London ( 4 year olds, and less than 10 of them)
the entertainer charged 400 for 3 hours….

Kisskiss · 12/07/2025 10:27

Oh sorry just saw the issue isn’t the money but that you don’t like the nature of the work

whattodoforthebest2 · 12/07/2025 10:35

OP, it was brave of you to pack in your job and try something new. Now you've tried it, put it down to experience. Bear in mind that many successful business people started out by failing at one thing or another before an idea took off. Now you've got a better perspective about what you might like to do and what to avoid, also perhaps doing more research before you start. If you fancy running your own business, keep thinking about it while you find another job and get yourself back on your feet. Keep trying.

Miyagi99 · 12/07/2025 10:55

AllThisBatshitteryAndMore · 12/07/2025 01:15

Yes I've taken out insurance
, and all travel expenses, laundry etc. I'm doing basic party stuff. I don't livrv in a fancy area

I live in a deprived area and even here an entertainer is £125 for a few hours.

Usernumber12356 · 12/07/2025 10:58

You tried.

You're braver than i have ever been. I've never even tried.

Inyournewdress · 12/07/2025 11:00

Well you tried. At least you won’t have regrets about not giving it a go. I have done jobs before that I thought would be really good and were actually horrible once I started! No shame in it.

Notreallyme27 · 12/07/2025 11:16

If you’ve managed to make albeit a tiny profit while charging 10% of the going rate, I’ll go against the consensus and say that you have an incredible fledgling business. How many bookings have you done? Add an extra £100-180 to each hour you’ve worked and that is what your profit should be. Does that change things?

If you’ve done hundreds of parties then I’d keep going. Anyone will lose their joy if they’re not making enough to eat. On the other hand if you’ve only managed to secure 6 bookings then it’s time to throw in the towel. Good luck either way!

putitovertherefornow · 12/07/2025 11:35

AllThisBatshitteryAndMore · 12/07/2025 10:12

Thank you everyone - the nice peeps that understood me. I will be looking for other work soon...

This could be salvageable you know.

The first thing any self-employed person needs to do is to work out their costs that they have to pay in order to provide the service and to calculate their break even point. If it costs you £50 for the items you need for that event (for instance), then you need to pass that on to your customer. Anything you earn after that is your profit.

£50 to recoup your expenses and break even.

You then add on how much you want to earn as a wage, so say £20 for an hour's work. You therefore have to charge your customer the £50 to cover your costs, plus what you want to earn per hour. For a three-hour party, that should be £110 and you have been only charging £60; way less than what you should have been charging.

Your costs were £50 and your income is £60 giving you a net £10 profit. Out of that £10 per party you then also have to pay insurance, fuel, advertising, stationery, phone, IT, you name it.

I think what you've been doing is not taking into account how much you have to spend before you break even.

Hopefully this will go some way to explaining why this experience has been so disappointing and futile.

Ophy83 · 12/07/2025 15:48

You might enjoy it more if you charged more, as it would feel worth it. It's unclear why you are getting too hot. If it is because of a costume maybe rethink that aspect.

Google suggests costs of a party entertainer can range from £150-£500 for a 1-hour show and £200-£1,250 for a two-hour party.

So it seems like you are significantly under-charging even if you are not in a fancy area.

TourdeFrance25 · 12/07/2025 19:23

PopeJoan2 · 12/07/2025 07:45

That’s what I wondered. We were hearing. Lot of excuses today.

I wasn't accusing her of making excuses! I genuinely was interested in what was involved & why she couldn't or was put off

SecretSloth99 · 13/07/2025 18:21

you need to work out your cost of doing business and then pay yourself on top of that.

so for example, a 2 hour party paying yourself £20 per hour then on top is your mileage, your admin time, etc etc and then all your overheads (insurance, DBS checks, supplies etc) need to be factored in.

surely once you’ve bought the things you need to ‘entertain’ with, those costs are fixed for some time until you need to replace them through wear and tear?

The big question is, are you doing this because you enjoy it or are you doing it because you thought you would make some quick cash? if it’s the latter, it might not be a sustainable business as I would imagine it takes a lot of energy plus big chunks of your weekend!

Hotflushesandchilblains · 13/07/2025 18:24

AllThisBatshitteryAndMore · 12/07/2025 01:41

Everyone is missing the point. I just don't like the work. It's stressful, it's hot, I just don't like finding work and doing it. I wanted something I could do for myself and please myself. But I don't like it! I should have just stayed in a office job but that was full of people that were difficult to work with

Ok, sounds like you have an important choice to make. You can go back into office work, accept that coworkers can be a pain in the neck, and hope you find a job with an atmosphere you like. Or you can raise your prices and try the entertaining for longer - but it sounds like you really dont like it. So you could try to find something else to do so you are self employed - I think a lot of job centres and local councils have initiatives to help with stuff like this.

MikeRafone · 13/07/2025 18:43

Ive just seen a poster this afternoon for a magician charging £16 per head for parties

ThistleTits · 13/07/2025 18:50

AllThisBatshitteryAndMore · 11/07/2025 21:25

I think I just hate the work. I'm reluctant to take jobs on. I find it too hot

Edited

You have given it a go (I'd give it a year), you don't enjoy it. Start looking for work and wrap the children's entertainment up.

BoredZelda · 13/07/2025 19:05

Sorry, I have my stepchild for tea!!

With some fava beans and a nice Chianti?

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