What do you think to the saying, people only treat you how you allow them to treat you ?

[SquirrelsTail]

I do agree with it, but it can also sound a bit off too

I do think there’s a lot of truth to it.

I think I agree. Victims of bullying and abuse are a different issue, of course, and abusers are very well-versed in selecting victims who are already in some way vulnerable.

But many MN threads are quite revealing of what pushovers people can be. Cf. the simple declining of a wedding invitation posing a huge moral dilemma, or telling a friend, 'no, you can't borrow £50 when you never repaid me the last twice' is a thing they're loathe to do even when being completely taken advantage of by a CF. Or someone brazenly inviting themselves on another family's holiday, which should be met with nothing other but an incredulous 'you're having a laugh!'

Humouring that kind of behaviour is just weak. There's a huge difference between that and 'victim blaming'.

How could you disagree with it?

I think it's 100% true.

The problem lies in the reasons why some people allow themselves to be treated badly.

It's often down to insecurity because for whatever reason, they don't want to be without the people treating them badly.

So his high standards presumably apply to his DW, you.

Does he treat you @TheaBrandt1 to at least an equal “high standards”?