Friend is in a bad relationship. Abusive in ALL the ways. He’s isolated her completely. Latest move is to sell her car, limiting how she gets around. Strongly suspects her online activities are being monitored so there’s little in the way of research she can do herself.
No family local. I’ve moved away so not local either.
Works full time, but from home and for a minimum wage, so says she can’t afford to support herself with even the basics where she lives. I’ve done the maths, even before taking any possible debt into consideration, she’s not wrong. Also there is the risk of him harassing her at work or being vulnerable living alone etc. if she leaves him and stays in the area they are in now.
She has a pet who she cannot abandon to just get the hell out. Some planning is required.
Her best bet, IMO, is to go back to Europe where she has some family and start again. She hasn’t made that decision yet and she needs to come to that conclusion on her own. When she does, I can help her a little with some “running away money”. She’s knows knows this option is available to her.
But how do other people manage to LTB financially ?
I'm after practical advice: how does she open a secret bank account? Doesn’t she need to use her home address, pretty much guaranteeing he’ll find out?
I plan to loan (well, give) her the money for her ticket to transport herself and her pet home. With a pet this takes time to organise (flights, vets etc) so it’s not like she can just sneak out and catch the Eurostar while he’s at work.
I have no idea how we’ll manage other logistics but I need to figure out how to get the cash available to her as a first step.
any advice would be appreciated! Thanks!