Wedding day….good or bad memories?

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Just that really. When you think back on your wedding day was it what you thought it would be?

when I think back, as much as I love my husband I just wish we had never got married. I hated the day. I suffer with paranoia so being centre of attention was so daunting. I hated having to pose for photos (I didn’t even want a photographer and I still haven’t opened the email with our photos) it was such a hot day and I was so uncomfortable in my dress. I wish my memories were different but I just really didn’t enjoy the day and was glad when it was over. Of course I put on a brave face and no one knew how I was feeling but that made it even more exhausting 😴

Mine was only me, DH and two witnesses. I was very heavily pregnant but I loved it. Especially going for the McDonald's breakfast afterwards🤭

Only amazing memories. Was perfect, wouldn’t change a thing. But we deliberately went for low-stress and low-planning by just having a very rough outline for the day and no massive expectations of how every little thing “should” look and run. Very basic flowers, very simple table settings, photographer was a good friend, my friends did my hair and makeup.

It also helped that a) DH and I are both really relaxed and easygoing people generally and b) we only had immediate family and very close friends, all of whom are fantastic, so none of the bullshit so many people seem to have to contend with like worrying if Uncle Mike is going to say something embarrassing or whether drama llamas will fall out and cause a scene.

It depends what you mean by 'wedding'. My DH and I arranged our marriage in 4 weeks when we found out my mum's terminal cancer diagnosis, as I wanted her to know we were married before she died. She died 2 days after our very small Register Office marriage, so my memory of that will always be tainted.

Our 'wedding' was nearly a year later and was a happy celebration with a humanist celebrant and our nearest and dearest there to help us celebrate. I loved it.

Horrible memories.
My sister made it all about her. Should have known cos the day we went dress shopping she brought her 5 yr old son. She was bridesmaid and moaned about the dress which was ridiculous as she picked it out I only picked the colour and paid for it.
The day itself... I got dressed alone as my mother had to go "help" her and nephew get dressed and help mind my nephew. 20 minutes before we were due to leave my mother came to my hotel room to see what I was doing so I spent the morning alone.
At the church she wouldn't walk down the aisle alone so she insisted nephew walked with her. Then told him to sit on the altar beside her(old church where you get married on the altar). Every time the photographer tried to get a photo of the two of us she either turned her head or called nephew to get in the photo.
It came to a head when she told nephew he could sit at the top table between me and her. My dad gave out to her telling her to wind her neck she can't change the seating. She sat with a face like thunder as me a dh walked in and the minute I sat down she started crying saying our Dad has made a show of her in front of everyone by shouting at her. She lasted the 30 minutes of the speeches, then the starters came out and she stormed out of the room grabbing nephew as she went. He was crying because he wanted to stay. I'm sat at the top table with my dh and his best man just the 3 of us.
So spent the afternoon and evening with no bridesmaid and everyone asking was she ok. My mother left the reception to check on her missing the first dance and cutting the cake.
Sad end to the night when my new DH had to console his crying bride on the wedding.

My first wedding wasn’t great (now ex) dh embarrassed me at the alter by pulling away on the first kiss so I stumbled. And he stood on my dress and left a foot print/made me stumble. At the first dance he decided to go for a shit and left me stood alone on the dance floor. He got hammered and hid loads of the buffet. He was also supposed to pay for the reception balance and didn’t so I had to the next day. Really the signs were there this relationship was doomed.

My second wedding was the best day of my life, I felt loved and beautiful and really enjoyed the day.

I loved mine and wouldn't change a thing. I also hate being the centre of attention so we married abroad with 8 family members. We had a photographer who just snapped away in the background and took minimal posed photographs, then we had a nice meal and everyone left us alone to enjoy the rest of our day by late afternoon.
My dress cost about £60 and I did my makeup myself.

It was all easy, minimal fuss and arranged in 3 days.