Did you think 'I couldn't do that again' then did?

[Sarah99xx]

In regards to having another child!

Not really planning here. Got a 3yo and 1yo and my youngest was a very unsettled young baby, still doesn't sleep well etc. I struggled and was depressed 2nd time round and mine and DHs marriage has been affected we've had 2 dates since our youngest was born so we dont get time alone. Need to work on that

I always dreamed of 3 overall. But realistically I dont know if I could handle it. My mental health really took a beating 2nd time round. Im consumed with guilt as im constantly split between 2, and I'll confess DH is a lazy b*stard when they're young and can't communicate clearly what they want!! But again I do have a sadness that I couldn't have 3 that I always dreamed.

However I just wondered. Did anyone ever think this, then do it and it wasn't as bad?

Not saying im planning just curious

Yep.
Thats why there is a 10 year gap between mine.

No way on gods green fucking Earth would I put myself through the utter utter torture that I endured with my first.
I was broken and lost and at the end of my tether constantly for the first 5 years.
I couldn’t cope with my first and couldn’t/wouldn’t risk having another child like my first.
The thought of coping with my first and another young baby/ child made me want to run away or end my life.

It was bad. BUT luckily my second was just a dream. How motherhood was for my friends and their child it turns out.