Why is online dating so hard with kids?

[purpledaze24]

I’m getting a bit fed up of being ghosted on dating apps after I reveal I have a young child (even though I’m upfront about it on my profile - maybe people miss it though). I’m late 30s so not exactly chatting to people in their early 20s who just want to party. I get that some people don’t want kids but is it really that unreasonable to expect people in their late 30s/early 40s to have a carefree life with no responsibilities? That seems to be what a lot of people are looking for. All these “let’s drive across the world together in a van” types 🙄 I did all that stuff in my 20s. I might not be able to have crazy, spontaneous adventures anymore but it doesn't mean i'm boring! I'm just a grown-up (I'm bisexual so this is men and women btw)

A young child, so much schooling ahead, is an accommodation. If you know you don’t want to make that accommodation it’s best to be upfront.

Before I married and had kids I didn’t/wouldn’t consider someone with kid(s). It was a deliberate choice.

Perhaps they have only just got the disposable income to have adventures, perhaps they just don’t particularly like having kids around or want holidays outside of school holidays.

It might be easier when you meet a few other single parents who are more understanding. And it won’t be a deal breaker for everyone.

But it’s easy to understand why initially it is.

I don’t have children and still get ghosted - that might not be the reason for it. But if it is, it’s good for them to show their true colours early on.

No way I’d sign up to a relationship with someone with children. Just far too much baggage to introduce into your life unnecessarily.

So I have some sympathy with the internet daters.

I won’t date anyone with kids under 18. And I’m a massive hypocrite because my youngest is 15.

I reiterated in my profile about 3 times that I have 3 children and sole parent them with no help from exh so therefore wasn't able to just randomly drive across the country to go camping, or go on a spontaneous date without any planning and arranging of things.

Seemed to work as my matches had kids themselves, or were understanding of the situation.

I'm sure men just skim read profiles so having it near at the top, middle and bottom of my profile must have helped them notice it lol.

Date another parent?

Maybe make it extra obvious on your profile like pp.

Then if they still do it you know it's not cos of DCs.