Friend with a crush on me has pockets dialed me ...twice

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He didn't call it a crush, but that's what it is I guess. Married man having a midlife crisis.

We're not close friends, hang out in the same circles, and he drinks too much and gets emotional sometimes. Never "done" anything but said some things you wouldn't want your DH saying to another woman.

We don't text ever, rarely a reason to. Twice in recent days he's phoned me. I don't pick up. TBH I don't want any private conversation with him. Then he sends a message saying the call was by accident. I don't know, that seems unlikely, why would my contact be the one that gets dialed by accident?

So, I think I'm doing the right thing? Maybe I should block him, but we're in groups together that I'd miss if they weren't there.

How do groups work if you've blocked one member?

He's not accidentally calling, ignore his messages, and carry on not answering his calls.

In future, if he says anything inappropriate then tell him right there and then that it's not appropriate to say that to you and you don't want to hear it.

You are enjoying the attention or you’d have dealt with this already and it would have been an awkward moment in the past. Block his calls for 6 months. If he ever says something inappropriate just say “stop being a creepy married man” and walk away. FFS this is not hard.

Harsh!

I think the first poster nailed it. Ignore, ignore, ignore!

I have said exactly that. I've told him very firmly I don't want to hear it and walk away as soon as he starts.

I never answer his calls and we don't have any text exchanges. But it's all my fault...?

Next time he does anything/texts you etc, tell him you have kept a note of everything he has said and if it ever happens again you will tell his wife. Maybe that will scare him off? Also tell other members of the group so they’re aware and can keep an eye out for you.

It's odd because I have told my closest friend in the group and also my BF, and both seem very relaxed about it.

Of course it’s not your fault he’s being sleazy. If you’d blocked him already it wouldn’t be living in your head. Honestly just cut him off, it sounds annoying at best.