Is this what couples are like?

[DinoLil]

I've just watched a couple, late 20s maybe early 30s, get into their car with a baby of about 6m.

Mum wheeled the pram, took out baby, put baby in car. Dad took mum's handbag off pram, threw it in the passenger footwell and then just stood about.

Baby all secured so dad got in the drivers side and started the car whilst the mum was taking apart the pram - which he could have done whilst baby was being put in car seat - so the mum had a face full of exhaust fumes whilst wrestling with collapsing the pram and getting it in the boot. No, it wasn't an electric car, so full of fumes.

I'm speechless! At her for accepting such shit behaviour and him for being a lazy arse.

I've got two sons in their 20s and I'd never forgive them if they behaved like this. And I would never have accepted my XH standing around whilst I did all the legwork.

Anyway. Nothing to comment on, really. Just a bit lost for words.

Yes in relation to that ONE couple.

not all couples everywhere forever and always 🙄

In our world, I'd probably be the one putting the baby in, and DH would dismantle and load the pram. Now we've got two, I tend to do the toddler, and DH puts the baby in and loads the boot. I'm usually in the car before he is, but I sort the directions and things too, and DH likes to take his time and pack the boot in a more organised way.

When I can lift heavier things again post section; we'll split who loads the boot more - whoever finishes first usually does it.

And yes, we see it every day here. Disappointing. But, I'm certainly not perfect and why I'm happily single.

I'm pleased you're happily single but why are you trying to justify it by pretending it's because some couples in the world treat each other badly? 😳

You don't need any justification, let alone a false one.

This just reminded me of a couple at the pool in our hotel a few weeks back. The mum had an enormous back pack on, and was carrying four sets of towels, a big bottle of water, and herding the two young children along. The dad was carrying his hat.

You watched them for a couple of minutes and have made a whole bsckstory of what they are like 🙄

My partner and I were laughing about this the other day. He’s injured, and awaiting surgery, but it’s not remotely visible. He cannot push, lift, carry, bend over etc, or else he’s laid up in pain the next day. If you’d have seen us this weekend, you’d have seen a massive, fit and healthy looking man, with a small backpack on, with a much smaller and sweatier me, pushing the buggy, pulling the suitcase, and also carrying the larger backpack. Not at all suggesting that is what was happening here, he’s probably just a dick, but you can’t assume you know the full story from a 5 minute snippet

@NaranjaDreamsExactly this! Teamwork!

Don't we all help each other out, especially with families? You made me laugh about organising the boot. It's like packing shopping at the supermarket. You have a system and god help anyone who tries to put the fabric conditioner in with the fruit bag!

Actually, maybe that's what was going on this morning? A system! Trying to get out of the house and the mum has a fast and efficient system whilst dad just gets in the way?! 😆

@MrsPinkSkyOh dear. You're not having a good day, are you, my sweet? I'm not justifying anything, certainly not to you! I hope your afternoon gets better 😘

In my younger days I noticed that how a man treated waiting staff/shop staff pretty much defined him as a person. Equally, I noticed that shopping behaviour mattered too.

Human behaviour can be observed everywhere. Ten to fifteen minutes spent in a supermarket car park can be very interesting. Just the other day I’ve noticed men with the engine running (for the aircon) on their bloody phones, while wifey returns with a full trolley. Posher cars now have a button for them to press to open the tailgate, to save them getting out to help load the shopping. C’est la vie!

Only last year I saw this article somewhere. Apologies if you’ve already seen it:
https://ifamagazine.com/navigating-the-ethical-aisle-how-financial-services-can-embrace-fairness-with-the-shopping-cart-theory/

Don’t be daft, OP. Do you think one couple represents all couples? I don’t know any like this, never have.

But he had probably had a tough year at work. A holiday is a time to recharge batteries, surely?

@swimlyn I've read that before. How someone (I'm going to say, not just men, also women) treats people, not just staff/shop staff but people in general - holding a door open for the person coming in behind for example. Or just saying thank you.
And yes, you're spot on about the supermarket car park! Although, we'll have another cohort jumping on this thread to say how we don't need men to collapse prams, go shopping or load up a car. But that's not the point! Of course we can, and we do.

The point is, if you're a couple, family, a friend, don't you assist? Help out? Lend a hand? Or just stand by? Obviously, not if you're physically unable to.

@swimlyn the holiday...!! 😆😆😆

Is this what couples are like? Well you tell us? Is every couple you know like this?

Apparently some of the posters I've tagged no longer exist.

No matter.

I just thought couples would help each other out. That's all.