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8 y/o self conscious

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Girraffeopottamus · 05/07/2025 22:52

Does anyone else have a self conscious child? 8 y/o DD has always been self conscious. It's better now than ever before. Some days she is totally fine, appears confident etc but I've noticed it more again lately. If she sees someone from school when we are out and about, even if it's a friend, her instinct is to hide behind me until they have passed by.

She is fine about new class next year but is worried as she is first in the register and doesn't know what to say i.e good morning, yes miss, here miss. I have said any of those is fine but she is not convinced!

She will play at the park if other kids are there but won't use the skatepark or a particular peice of play equipment if there is even 1 person on it. Won't use trampoline if neighbours are in the garden in case they see her. Will stop holding my hand if she sees any kids in public (even strangers) but I guess that happens as they grow up!

She has always been on the anxious side and if anyone has a child who was similar please let me know what helped them stop worrying about what other people think!

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Sportsdaywinner · 05/07/2025 23:33

My year old has suddenly become similar to what you describe. I'm hoping it's a phase! The way I'm dealing with it is to not draw attention to the self-consciousness but to just try and remain positive and use upbeat encouragement if he starts to say he can't do this or that or he's worried about xyz. I've had a word with his teacher at school and the SEN department (he also has autism so already known to them) and they are keeping an eye on him. May be worth mentioning to school?
Hope she is ok, I'm sure it will pass.

Sportsdaywinner · 05/07/2025 23:36

Just to add to illustrate how self-conscious my son can be at the moment...I had taken him to the barbers and we arrived back home in the car and we were just about to get out to go into the house when he spotted a group of teens walking in he distance on the opposite side of the road. He wouldn't get out of car until they'd passed by out of view..he was worried about his new haircut being seen!!!

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