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I'm a different (worse/horrible) person after losing my dog

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cbacbacbaa · 05/07/2025 17:44

I lost my dog at the start of the year, quite suddenly and out of the blue. I barely have any friends and I'm single, so my dog was quite literally my best friend. He was the love of my life. I don't care how that sounds. He was the best thing in my life; getting him was the best decision I ever made in life. I did also lose my job and my lifelong best friend's friendship (she got in her first serious relationship and I never hear from her anymore) a few months before losing my dog, so it's like three losses in a short space of time.

I lost him and ever since I've changed so much as a person, and all for the worst. I've always been a kind, gentle, quiet sort of person - a chronic people pleaser really, but I got joy in helping others. Ever since losing my dog I resent any and every demand on me (apart from work, which I thankfully have started to enjoy and find respite in). I used to visit my elderly grandparent and now I hate going and the expectation that I'll be visiting them every weekend. I resent that I'm the only grandchild to go and visit them. When I visit my friend with children I used to love chatting and playing with them and now I just sit in silence. I've just lost patience with everyone. If anyone says anything about me I find to be negative I just want to cut them off forever for it. Even myself. I've always had low self-esteem but the things I think about myself now are so awful...

I just feel like the worst person ever. I feel like such a bad person. I don't know how to pull myself together; it's been 6 months now. I just want everyone to leave me alone. I dread time off work as all these feelings rise to the surface and I just cry and cry. I comfort eat and buy things constantly to try and feel the massive void I feel.

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Dunnocantthinkofone · 05/07/2025 17:46

You sound depressed OP. Have you seen a doctor and talked honestly about how you feel?

AndImBrit · 05/07/2025 17:48

Sorry to hear you’re having a tough time. This sounds like textbook depression. You should seek medical help.

HardyPlumPombear · 05/07/2025 17:48

Oh I am so sorry for your loss, this sounds so hard. You are deep in grief! Think about how you might consider these feelings more ‘valid’ for yourself if you had lost a precious person close to you. That’s the depth of this loss. And it’s totally valid to grieve this much for your precious dog. This will pass but please let yourself grieve!

cbacbacbaa · 07/07/2025 20:19

I've not been to the GP, but maybe I'll go. I've been on antidepressants before and only came off them around a year ago.

I didn't really recognise that I'm still in grief. I think I had forgotten that, as if it was something that I went through in the past rather than something I'm still going through in the present.

Thanks all

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