Is it possible I knew, subconsciously even then?

[Rispknee]

I've recently got together with a man who just isn't my "type".

I've known him a long time through a hobby. He is a very sociable person (I'm not) and organises a lot of outings and trips connected to the hobby.

In early 2024 he was organising a trip to do something I enjoy, in a country I've never been to. It was only 48 hours and although I didn't know anyone else who was going and at that point didn't know him well, I thought what's the worst that can happen, and went.

I ended up spending 2 days in a foreign city, with this man who couldn't be more different to me, three of his old school friends I'd never met, and an eccentric from our hobby group. We had the best time, but I still thought I liked his school friends more than him 😆

Looking back I can't believe I was brave enough to go!

Do you mean 'Did I do something uncharacteristic in going on this trip with a bunch of strangers because I was subconsciously attracted to the man who organised it, even though at the time I genuinely preferred his friends?'

Possible, I suppose. But isn't it more likely that getting to know him more since then has led to you looking past whatever it is that means he's not your 'type'?

I'm not sure. He's very outgoing and can be a bit annoying and talk too much. I have learned that that's a shield he hides behind and the person underneath is much more likeable. He's completely different when we're alone together, now he's comfortable with me. I'm wondering if I somehow saw that all along.