Just interested to hear if this has happened to anyone else/you also find this weird/you think its normal.
I went through a breakup a few years ago, been together a long time and it was an amicable split. I personally dont discuss relationship problems with other people, for context, so people will have not been aware of any issues. Ex partner is a lovely person and well liked (we have known each other many years)
I didn't 'announce' that we had broken up, but obviously it comes up in conversation. So 'ah, won't be able to do that date, me and my partner have split up so im doing xx - all amicable, we've just got to sort out the logistics of xx'. I went out of my way to provide another topic so people wouldn't feel like they were on the spot! If that makes sense.
I was slightly bemused at a few things.
- people going 'are you sure?' (No, we've just decided to split up and take on the emotional, financial and logistical task of detangling our life together on a whim...)
- people who i have never discussed my relationship or personal problems with in my life asking 'what happened?'
- people in general asking weird questions or giving their opinions on why they think it happend or attempting to say negative things about my ex (and i mean attempt, they are a good person and well liked so its a struggle!)
Has anyone else ever found this? Even if a close friend broke up with their partner seemingly suddenly, im not sure I'd immediately go 'what happened' I think I'd ease in with 'hope you are okay, do you need any help with anything? Im here to talk if you need'
Am I the weird one and all this is just normal?