Friends with neighbour no one likes also in abusive relationship advice needed

[Lasangelover]

Road is fairly small one lady who lives down the road wanted to be friends , I had no friends locally so went ahead and started a friendship, since then I’ve discovered she has mild learning difficulties and maybe that’s why she sometimes is full on. However since she complains to everyone about minor things , eg reports things to housing , police , council , it means the whole road dislikes her as some have gotten into trouble due to this , she even reported someone for not having a mot / tax and then told me about it when I do not want to get involved and won’t report anything as I don’t care what people get upto in there own homes it can cause issues for me as I live next to the ones she reports.
I mean she complains every little thing dogs barking , even to the council about bin men not putting her bin nearer to her front door when emptying on bin day .
I am now noticing people do not like it if I go to hers or vice versa so should I cool the friendship down ? Btw other neighbours do not talk to me apart from hello .
To make things complicated since getting to know her I’ve pretty sure her relationship is abusive , her partner works full time and drives she’s stuck in the house , he won’t let her work as says it’ll mess the universal credit up , he gets all the money in the household - child benefits, uc and his wage.

He is there whenever I am invited round to visit and I’m not a pushover and I’ve told him she needs an income he just replies with she can pay the bills then , but when she says ok he just says she can’t do it because of uc he doesn’t listen when I say but she will have the wage then which would be more than what they get uc .

Im really unsure what to do , I’ve spoken to her privately about getting a job she says yes and seems determined but then after she’s gone home a few days later she’s telling me no she’s not searching anymore. Really unsure what to do

It does sound like financial abuse but if she's not going to act, there's little you can do. My only suggestion, if she has a LD would be an adult safeguarding report to social services.

Wiser people will be along to say how but you can raise a concern about a vulnerable person (which she is) who is experiencing abuse. Presumably social services?

But you can also speak with your local police and raise a concern. They probably won't do anything, maybe go around for a chat, but if you're able to speak to the same person each time then when future concerns are flagged up they can trigger the right processes. Local PCSO can be very effective.

I'm not surprised she reports so much when she has so little control in her own life, it may also be at his instigation.

You could also ask womens aid for advice. They do have information on their website about supporting someone in an abusive relationship

Thanks I’m going to see her next week hopefully alone so I can talk more with her about my concerns and see what she says.