Do you have two kids 2 years apart, then another 3 years younger?

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If this is your kids, or if it was you and your siblings, how do these age gaps work?

I have two girls, two years apart. The youngest has just turned 2. If we try for a third there will likely be a 3 yr gap. The two girls get on so well. I am worried that if we go again that a third child with a bigger age difference might be left out.

I know there'll be people who come along and say they hate all their siblings anyway so it doesn't matter! But if you do like your siblings mostly and you are generally a close family, has there been a problem with the younger one being left out? Do/did the three siblings get on and 'play together' as older children? Do they get on reasonably equally as adults?

My siblings and I have (pretty much) this age gap.
If anything the middle one (me) got left out. But that's because the other 2 are boys and had more in common.

We are generally close though.

Yes, I do. A son and a daughter 2 years apart, followed by another daughter 3.5 years later.

The older two have never got on brilliantly although thankfully that's changing now. But the big and middle love their baby sister. It's been a blast and a lovely gap, far better than I'd dared imagine. Today they were all cuddling saying they loved each other. She's had a very bonding effect on the family.

Not sure how I'd feel if I had two of the same sex who got on.

I have 3 DC. There is one year and 10 months between DC1 and DC2, then 2 years 8 months between DC2 and DC3, so quite close to 2y then 3y.

They all got on fine as younger children and are still fine. 3 years isn't really a big age gap.

One of my friends has 2 years between two daughters, then a 3rd daughter ten years later. That's trickier.

Yes, I have two kids who are 2 years apart, and a third child who is 3 years younger than the second.

No, my youngest has never been left out.

Well, they have gone through different stages at different times of their life where any two got on slightly better or slightly worse.
They are adults now and get on fabulously.

Thank you all. Sounds like generally it's not too much of a problem. I do take on board that if the hypothetical third is a boy that he will be a different sex AND have a bigger age gap.

My eldest (8 and 6) are 2 years and 6 weeks apart. Boy and girl. My youngest is 3 (girl). They get on well in general. Sometimes the older two are thick as thieves, sometimes it's the two girls. My son is very good with the youngest. It all just depends. Mostly on what mood they are all in!!

yes 3 boys. Men now and are best friends.

I have exactly this. 2 20 months apart. 3.5 years till the third one. I love it. They dote on their younger sibling.

I know several friends who have this set up with the oldest now being 15, the middle one 13 and the youngest 10. Obviously you can’t do anything about this but it seems to work best when DC2 & DC3 are the same sex and the worst combo is when DC1 and DC2 are the same sex and DC3 is the other sex. A 15yo girl and a 10yo boy just don’t tend to have that many things in common and or do a 15yo boy and a 10yo girl. However, that is just a phase. I have a lot of friends of my own age (late 40s) who have a similar age gap with their own siblings and most get on well with them regardless of where they are in the birth order. Where they don’t, it is for bigger reasons than age gaps

It's really interesting hearing all your experiences, thank you!