Would you let your 11 wear this?

[Wanderinginthewilderness]

DD (11 but very tall, and long out of the children’s ranges, so we’re struggling) and I are going around in circles on trying to find her some clothes to go on holiday. We’ve ordered this in black and she wants to wear it with black boots - goth style. She doesn’t have any curves yet, so it’s flat against her chest and everything is well- covered. Do you think it’s inappropriate for an 11 year old?

Sorry - that should read, “Would you let your 11 year old wear this?”.

Wear what?

Sigh. I’m an idiot 😳. Sorry. This:

www2.hm.com/en_gb/productpage.1289969004.html

If everything is covered it’s fine in my view.

It's absolutely fine! Why wouldn't it be?

I wouldn't have an issue with my 11 year old wearing it, as long as it was appropriate to the day's activities (eg not if going to the trampoline park or for a bike ride etc).

This.

Yes, what's your objection?

Yes, absolutely.

My DD was a nightmare at 11 (puberty hit early and hard) and it was a constant battle to get her to wear suitable clothes and not plaster her face with makeup.

I'm so glad those days are gone!

Yes I would.

Have you tried New Look, they have a great range of tween clothes. Also Primark have some and my dd fits in some ladies XXS in Primark as well.

That is a pretty dress- why don’t you like it?
(didn’t see the back view)

It’s a normal looking dress. What’s the issue?

It's sweet rather than sexy - what's the problem?

Thank you, everyone. I didn’t actually have an objection and had been reasonably happy to buy it for her, but her friend’s mum was horrified and told DD she definitely shouldn’t be wearing it to a restaurant on holiday. I was a bit surprised and was second-guessing myself a bit. Thanks for the sanity check!

Absolutely fine. The only problem I had with DD's outgrowing of children sizes when she was 10/11 that lots of dresses were too wide or low cut, she didin't have the necessary boob to fill it out.

It’s fine for her, I’d just have it tried on to make sure it’s not gaping at top as you say she doesn’t have any curves (or have it taken in a little).

I think it’s fine! I’d prefer if the neckline was straight across rather than v neck for an 11yr but considering it’s not from the kids section it’s pretty conservative

I've got a DD the same age and we too have started to have to trawl the S and XS in the ladies sections now.

I have to pick carefully with tops/dresses because the necklines gape weirdly unless they are quite high and round. For my DD this dress would be gapey cos DD has v small chest still. But you could shorten the straps maybe ?

it's just a dress , don't see your issue