Newly single at 35, where do you meet people?

[tiredconfusedhungry]

A bit of a hypothetical question, I am newly separated and not in a place where I want to start dating or even looking yet. But as a 35 year old woman who’s been with her (ex) husband since she was 17, where on earth am I going to meet someone?

I work from home. I don’t go to pubs, certainly not clubs. The hobbies I do have are sort of solo ones anyway, I go to the gym but I tend to go very late at night.

So if you’ve been single at 30+ where did you meet your partner? I have no desire to try apps.

Some sort of hobby is probably the answer!
Are you musical? Choir /orchestra?
I went to a climbing centre a while ago and was struck by how many 25-35yr old men there were?!

I’m sorry to say it, but literally all of my friends who separated, met their new partners online.

Otherwise, join local groups and hobbies - walking, fitness, whatever interests you

In the nicest way possible you’ve already ruled out all of the places you are most likely to meet someone.

It’s a bit like saying - “I want to buy milk, where should I go? Please note that I won’t use shops or supermarkets and I don’t like to go near farms or dairies”.

If you won’t try apps, work from home and all your hobbies are solo/late at night then you probably won’t meet anyone. I’m being blunt for your benefit here.

Something would have to change - either you try dating apps and/or start to go out more in a variety of settings where the kind of men you might be interested in can be found.

I know @wheresmymojo 😂 I guess in time I may want to try the apps. I’m not in the right place right now, but in time I might be.

I know exactly how it sounds, which is how I know I’m no where near ready, I don’t want to change anything at the moment to maximise my chances. But I do appreciate the honesty.

That’s interesting, my 2 closest friends have nothing good to say about the apps. Maybe it’s the area we live in 😂

Online.

I played a lot of instruments when I was younger and I have a list of things I want to try once we are out of this current shit storm and we are more settled. So maybe that’s the answer.

Unfortunately the apps are both as bad as your friends say they are and the most likely place you’ll meet someone.

A bit like searching for a diamond in a slurry pit 😆