At what age did you stop making a ‘fuss’ over DC’s birthday?

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DD is turning 12. We’ve bought her the specific presents she asked for (clothes, trainers, books etc), ordered a cake and we are going out for a meal on the weekend. In years past we’ve had birthday banners and balloons up and the whole day has revolved around her birthday but not this year and it feels quite different. She’ll be competing in an athletics event on her birthday and is looking forward to that and spending time with her friends so hasn’t seemed particularly fussed about her birthday itself - apart from ensuring she gets her presents! I’m fine with this but realise for the first time the concept of her ‘big day’ has changed. Probably explaining it a bit badly but really feeling that my little girl is now growing up!

We never had the whole day revolving around one person. Nor did we put balloons up.
But my dc are adults now and we still get together for cake and candles.

So 'never' is the answer in my house, but our level of 'making a fuss' was always lower.

We definitely still make a fuss at 12, but we didn’t do a party (with friends) this year. She couldn’t really decide what she wanted to do, other than a ‘pool party’ hiring out a local (private) pool. But we couldn’t make up the adult ratios required for the number of friends she wanted to invite. And then she couldn’t think of anything else. And apparently, a BBQ with all her friends and hanging out at home in the garden isn’t cool enough. 🤷🏻‍♀️

But we definitely made a fuss with banners and balloons and cake at home on the day, meal out, presents all that. Just no party with friends this year.

Never! My eldest is 45. Mind you, we may not make as much fuss as some other people? Birthday presents and cards, special birthday meal and cake of their choice. (I also do it for sons in law...!

Never. Eldest will be 40 next year. His fiancée takes the lead on the “fuss” obvs but we still like a get together! Same for my other adult kids.

Until they left home... 2 down 4 to go!

23 years old and we still do. Not have parties kind of fuss, but do what he wants over the closest weekend all day Saturday and Sunday. He’s our only though. We tend to do it for our birthdays too really.

Always celebrated birthdays with my children and still do ,but now adults living away from home . Probably stopped the balloons etc after primary school.

Never. One's 32 and the other is 27. They will always be special to me and I show it by making a fuss of them on their birthdays.

We still do to an extent. DC are 22 and 25 and are at Uni. I post parcels of gifts, send a cake etc. If they are at home I put cards and presents in the kitchen the night before and put up balloons and streamers. Still do it for DH who is 57!!

My husband didn't have birthdays celebrated when he was younger. He got some presents in the morning but that was it. I found it so strange!
Since we've gotten together, he gets balloons, banners, cake, presents and we go out for dinner.
My almost 16 year old gets the same! I love birthdays!

Mine are in their 20s.
We still do balloons, banners and all the fun.

We've never done balloons and banners except if hosting a party at home on the same day. We do presents and cards, a homemade birthday cake of the requested flavour and theme (often quite a bit of work) whatever they want for dinner, and still doing some form of party at 15 - this year paid for a meal out for DD and friends in the big city. Next year I've already said I'm not paying for a "do" but as it'll be just after GCSEs and before prom I'll treat her to something extra for that.

Everyone - adults and teens - gets a decorated kitchen to come down to in the morning (banners, streamers, pretty coloured paper decs - old faithfuls kept carefully for years) with cards and presents all laid out, then birthday breakfast of choice, school, evening is a nice home cooked dinner and home made decorated cake; then the kids get a party or day out somewhere nice with friends, plus separate birthday lunch with extended family. I love doing it so much! I wouldn’t do it if it was a chore. Much loved rituals. The teachers get the class to sing happy birthday too (secondary school so I think the teachers largely carry the tune alone but the kids crack a smile)

Im a big fan of making a fuss at birthdays so we still do now (kids are 12 and 9) and also make a fuss about each other’s birthdays. We expect cards and presents and favourite meals and such and I have reusable decorations I put out each birthday.

i am a big fan of holidays in general though - we have a lot of parties for all the holidays too.

We always do balloons and banners (and gifts, cake, special meal) for everyone (I do for my husband as well haha) because it's fun to celebrate. Doing other things on the day has always been the way for us though, not just the whole day focused on being the birthday.

Sounds way too much fuss for anyone. Kids of 12 are very sensitive to peer pressure so keep it simple. It's her day not yours.