Pls could anyone help with men’s waistcoat buckle thing?

[WaistcoatWoes]

Firstly please excuse any spag etc and shit descriptions. There’s a reason.

Anyway DH is naturally and effortlessly stylish and but not a “formal formal” dresser if that makes sense? Anyway he is wearing very smart clothes inc a lovely waistcoat to An Important Event. He is 6 foot 4 with 30 inch waist, so clothes can be tricky! but the fit is perfect is perfect on this waistcoat and we have enough etiquette knowledge to know the one finger fit thing, last button always undone and buckle ideally in middle etc .

Fine, But practically, the fucking buckle thing on the strap is throwing us. The fabric strap is silky and when the buckle is done, there is a spare bit of the strap after IYSWIM is Just hanging loose? I always wear those adhesive straps (I believe called tit tape ) to help my own clothes stay in place so my idea was just to stick a little on the strap so they stick together.

but are we missing something? I do have cognitive function issues so used to be able to tie a scarf in a million different ways, now I literally can’t tie my own shoelaces it’s very frustrating.

any help appreciated, esp if explained very simply! DH had to rush to work and i’d love to be able to show him when he gets back, that I’ve sorted it.

may post in chat as well for traffic and quick responses but I know you guys will know the answer! thank you very much

If it’s that formal an event, presumably he won’t take the jacket/tails off? If he does, let it dangle. It doesn’t need to not dangle. I suppose if you’re really bothered you’d unpick the belt/buckle and move each half out so there’s a smaller dangly bit. But I really don’t think it’s necessary.

I think it does just hang down. That's how it's meant to look. Google some pictures and see what it looks like.

I think it does just hang down. That's how it's meant to look. Google some pictures and see what it looks like.

I think it does just hang down. That's how it's meant to look. Google some pictures and see what it looks like.

I think it does just hang down. That's how it's meant to look. Google some pictures and see what it looks like.

Thank you for reply @HiRen,it’s not actually that formal, no jacket he just wanted to waistcoat over his white shirt and we are both perfectionists so don’t want any dangle - the word dangle is making me laugh now you should have seen what we were like with the folding of the white sleeves to just the perfect place under his elbows!

will try the tape I think,

Hello there @WaistcoatWoes
You use that spare few inches of the silky strap/band to tie a very simple loop knot to keep the waistcoat at the correct size.

Have a look on wiki-how, they will explain it with diagrams, or yooootuuuube will have videos. Search with some thing like..."how to fasten the back buckle of a black-tie waistcoat".

Hope you find what you need, and have a great time at the event!

@ApolloandDaphneI’m going out a limb and thinking it looks like you think there should be a dangle

we can have no dangle here, too annoyingly perfectionist and to be fair it kind of ruins the look

Thank you @AdaColemanwill look at simple loop knot. It’s hard coz I can’t follow videos, but wikihow sounds good, if there is written info with diagrams sounds ideal.its so depressing I can’t just “do” the simplest thing these days. Will get DH to perhaps look and I can adjust the knot and dangle from behind for him. he looks lovely in rl but his waist to height makes clothes hard!

I was getting weird messages saying I couldn't post but it seems they did post! Sorry.

How did you get on @WaistcoatWoes? Did it all work out right for you?
I hope you had a lovely evening, with no hanging down bits to spoil it!

Thank you @AdaColemani couldn’t find the tape in the end as I think I’ve already packed it,- so will hope for no dangly bits when I find it! event not til Friday but we are travelling there tomorrow to give us a bit of leeway as it’s a long distance and atm I know it’s going to be a struggle going to make it tbh! i always always let people down/miss out on stuff due to unpredictable health but there is no way I am missing out on this and letting a DD down. shall just keep on, hoping for no dangly bits and health fuck ups!

Just coming back to update as you were all kind enough to post with tips.DH did the loop and the dangly bit was shorter. He looked great. This is not quite as outing as a DH hobby but it was a DC graduation and we wanted to make a big effort dressing up to show “acknowledgement” ? can’t think of the word! of their amazingness . Obvs they know we think they are amazing anyway

ps ofc it’s MN so it’s the law I say it was a RG uni and they got a First (true!). I got to see them “capped” etc before having a seizure but thankfully DC didn’t see. Literally in the 10 secs thatDH had turned away to get my chair so couldn’t catch me it was a seizure from standing in a stepped wooden bench area ironic was “lucky” that my limbs/benchs broke the fall not my head plus first aid/security were amazing at “shielding” us so it wasn’t a big drama disruption thankgod. Obvs DC realised when we met them after ceremony but it was fine as hospital could wait and DC were cool as used to it and I just lolled about in wheelchair half asleep and the other parents assumed I was already drunk and judged me I don’t know whether they judged DHs dangle or not

so it all went quite well! Have a second graduation this month (this DC also got a First, shameless un stealth boast!) so we get another go!!! DH is wearing his dangle again so thanks for everyone’s help

🎓 Hello there @WaistcoatWoes
I'm so glad to hear that you got to see your child's graduation 🎓 ceremony, especially as it was at a RG university! 😉 😜
What a pity you took a "turn", but you seem to have styled it out with some aplomb, and not let it spoil the day.
How fab that you get to do it all over again very soon. You and your DH will be old hands at the dangly silk ribbon, and able to give sherry and nibbles with the VC your full attention.
Have a fantastic time all of you! 🎓 🎓 🎓 🎓

ah thank you * @AdaColeman * . Sherry and nibbles you say? We were due to have a “champagne reception in the quad”. naturally is was raining really really heavily, I just have some vague half memories of a lot of people wearing what I thought were black hairdresser capes standing around giant muddy white tents and remember DC carefully holding her programme booklet over my head so my hair didn’t get wet. Truly she is very intelligent with a good sense of priorities!

fingers crossed I get to do it again next week but haven’t managed a day without a seizure yet so…I’m just hoping. I want to be there for Dc2, they will understand if im semi conscious, I’m sure a lot of people are by the end of all the speeches!!! This DC also got a First (another shameless stealthless boast! I don’t know how we produced such smart DC, god knows our cats are thick as mince and they’ve all had the same upbringing

Same (cleaned obviously!) outfits will be worn and we are now DangleMasters. With honours.

@WaistcoatWoes
I like the sound of champagne in the Quad, but champagne in the mud doesn't sound nearly as enjoyable! 🥂 🍾 🥂

I'm sorry to hear that you are suffering a cluster of seizures at present, it must be so distressing and debilitating for you.
How sweet that your DD was protecting your hair from the rain, obviously she has been very well brought to up!

I wouldn't be surprised if at the next graduation ceremony your husband is awarded a PhD (Perfectly honorable Dangly).