10 yr old dd and bullying

[Charliebradbury]

Just looking for some insight on what to do next.
For the last couple of months my dd (10) has been having trouble with 2 girls in her class. One seems to be the instigator. It started out with little things like not letting her play with them, I told her to just find someone else to play with. It has since escalated.
They now move seats whenever she sits at a lunch table, she says they whisper about her, if she finds someone to play with they follow them around the playground. They call her names, have made tik tok videos about her. I have spoke to the teacher numerous times and I am told it is being dealt with.
Yesterday she came out if school in tears, she had been placed in a group with them for a group project and they had deleted all of her work on her chromebook that she had done that afternoon, they then removed her from the Google docs they were using so she couldn't do any work. She had told the teacher but apparently they just removed her again after the teacher had added her back to the group.
I have now emailed the headmistress but I don't know where it goes from here. My dd doesn't want to go to school, she slept in my room last night because she was so upset. It seems like the teacher just talks to them, they lie to the teacher and then are straight back to calling my dd names. Any advice how to help my dd?

How are things Charliebradbury?
i hope you’ve been able to speak to the HT.

I would be making a formal complaint to the school and ask for a meeting to see how they are resolving this

Phone the school and make an urgent face to face appointment with the head. If you’re not still not happy with how the head deals with it, then contact the chair of the governing board. Their details have to be on the school website

I have had a chat with the HT and are hoping to have a more in depth face to face meeting this week.
Its been a horrible week, the day after I spoke to the HT and she said she would be talking to the girls involved, someone reported me to my manager for unprofessional behaviour. I had to have HR meetings and the conclusion is that it was a malicious complaint without any standing. After speaking to my manager, friends and dd's teacher it turns out that one of the girls parents was called into school because of her behaviour and that afternoon the complaint about me was made "anonymously". It was the girls parent as she has since been boasting about it.
Not sure where to go from here, my dh has been handling corresponding with the school for the rest of the week as I obviously didn't have the headspace. I work with vulnerable people and it could have seriously harmed my career. Fingers crossed for a positive meeting and a better week and I'm counting down till summer.

At this stage I would consider moving your child.

Yes the bullies 'win' but your child and you would be out of the situation.

Sometimes a pragmatic retreat is needed.

Get her to.punch o e of the
.next time it starts,they won't bother her anymore.
Tik tok and what's app, shouldn't be available to them, parents sound shitty, not checking it out.

I'm so sorry to hear this 😪 I cannot believe a gown adult would do this.
I hope the HT knows this. They deserve to be asked to leave the school.

Why would anyone do that obviously then girls parents a bullying too.

I would be mortified of my DD was bullying someone. Honestly I don't understand some people. Are the school aware that the other parent has done (not sure they would or could do anything) but might give weight to how bad things are getting.

I think I'd give my DD the green flag to retaliate if the girls continue.

Big big hugs.