Stop 22 month old breastfeeding

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I want to stop breastfeeding my toddler. I am touched out and tired. I’m also pregnant and finding it extremely difficult for some reason. However he shows no signs of stopping. Easy to distract during the day and now eating fairly well, drinking well. But I cannot, no matter how drop the feeding to sleep and if he wakes in the night, he screams until he is fed.
I’ve tried getting DH to do it but he screams and shouts mummy (literally for over an hour) until I give in.

Is there a magic tip I’m missing? I’ve no issue cuddling him to sleep, but I genuinely think he would sleep through (and later) if we stopped. He just won’t fall asleep unless fed to sleep!

What can I do to break the cycle? Help me I’m so tired and he wants a feed at half 4/5 every morning and by the time he’s asleep, I’m up for work most mornings?

Help me sleep!

I have observed (with my 2 bubs and others) that about age 2 or 3 they feed a lot less and often start to sleep through naturally anyway. It is a hard one. No tips just empathy, whatever you do this is not forever!

I was in the same situation and read somewhere that, if a big event in their life is approaching like birthday, Christmas (i know is months away) to tell them that Milk Fairy is coming on the event day and take the milk to a younger baby who hasn't got any.
We prepared mine and the trick worked. He did ask if Fairy is bringing the milk back when the other baby is done with it :) but we said no and he got that in the end. Mine was 3 and I never planned to breastfeed so long but I couldn't face him screaming for hours in the night. Good luck

I haven't read the replies yet op, but wanted to share how I did it. I stopped at about 2 years with each of my 4 children (3 years with the last). With one of them, my milk had genuinely dwindled to nothing, as I was 5 months pregnant with the next. I told dc my boobs were empty now, and they could have a cuddle and a drink of water instead. So I still went to them at night, and I just said/did that every time. It didn't take long at all for them to accept it. I did the same with the next ones as it worked so well with the first, even though it wasn't true. I just wanted to stop. I went to them each time, cuddled, offered water, explained, comforted. It only took 2/3 nights each for them to settle down and start sleeping through. Good luck.

I would have been happy to continue for a bit longer with mine. I would get DH to deal with the 4/5am stint. A firm Mummy is fast asleep with lots of cuddles will hopefully work. And then have a few nights when your just not there at bedtime and get DH to do some singing and stories. They could have a drink before bed and maybe a naughty snack (do they still make those chocolate baby biscuits?). Mine started to want the routine with the chocolate biscuits and the story with Daddy instead of Mummy boob.

Emma Pickett is an IBCLC lactation consultant specialising in this area. She has a free podcast and resources if you google her. There’s also an organisation called “Breastfeeding Psychology” that has Clinical Psychologists who specialise in helping mums during breastfeeding/weaning