Would you relocate near to ex you dont want to see again

[LittleStar1212]

I'd like to relocate to Cornwall. I like the area and the idea of living there and I know it quite well. I'm worried because my ex husband lives there and I really don't want to see him ever again. He is not a risk to me, but he was emotionally abusive during our relationship and my confidence is very low. If I saw him I think there's a high chance he would try to talk to me to be ‘friendly’. I do not believe he has any insight into his behaviours. He is incredibly arrogant with narracistic characteristics. I would plan to ignore him. I wouldn't live in the same town as him, but I think Cornwall always feels like a small place. I would probably avoid certain areas/towns as a result of tryong to avoid the risk of bumping into him and I don't know if this makes it a bad move. Just wondering what other people's perspectives might be?

No I wouldn’t

Your ex ceased to be relevant years ago. Why would you even consider him? Do you share children or have any present contact?

I assume you aren't planning to move to the same street. Cornwall is a big place. Just move and don't tell him. It's none of his business.

I specifically haven’t gone to a town an hour from me for over 15yrs for this very reason

I would. Yes Cornwall is small, but it is also huge. Bude to St Just takes about 2 hours. I'd pick my location carefully and go for it. Do you want him to dictate your life?

It’s a huge area in terms of landmass. As long as you don’t move to his town it will be fine. Even if you do see him it won’t be any different to seeing anyone else from your past. Say hello, don’t tell him where you live and move on.

I always think how little I see my neighbours who I live on the same street as, let alone friends who live on a one mile radius without planning so I’d totally do this if it’s your dream and it won’t be the same town.

Thanks for your replies. No children with him or contact. Haven't had any contact for a few years post divorce. I just hate the thought of seeing him, but im also conscious other people shouldn't rule your life.