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Solpalady · 21/06/2025 23:22

Please don't judge me. I live at home with my mother. She has been experiencing a bad run of things. Lately there's intense OCD from morning til night and a lot anger, hositility and low comprehension and a long list of demands and requests with no regard for my money. Just horrible. I live in a housing crisis and am area with poor housing options.

This morning I was woken by her banging and she was just banging and cleaning all day long. I put together a piece of furniture and she just stood over me arguing. She's just nasty.

I know my only move should be moving out and I will be doing that. It will be September due to a lot of work constraints right now.

Things are bad from. I think she could have dementia. There's other signs of confusion. Or maybe there is some sort of a crazy spell. I don't know. I am not qualified.

I don't know if I can take another day of this. I am thinking about packing a bag and leaving tomorrow morning and booking a hotel for the night. I found a good value place. I need to do some computer work and there's no break or space at home.

She can still manage a lot a lot of her own daily activities. She's in crazy mode. Simple as that.

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InSpainTheRain · 21/06/2025 23:27

Gosh that sounds awful. I think you need to get yourself out of that situation as soon as possible. Go find that hotel!

Imanonymoushere · 21/06/2025 23:27

I dont know why you are expecting judgement OP.

Getting away for a night in a hotel sounds like a good idea . The situation with your mother sounds really difficult and you have to look after your own wellbeing.

Do you have any other relatives eho can take some of the burden away from you OP?

Solpalady · 21/06/2025 23:31

I have none to help me.

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Solpalady · 21/06/2025 23:31

The migraine I have today is blinding and there s just nasty from her.

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Solpalady · 21/06/2025 23:32

I can get on a bus tomorrow and check in somewhere.

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Dillydollydingdong · 21/06/2025 23:34

Yes, just go. You don't have to put up with that nonsense. Your mother needs to see a doctor. You might be able to get a cheap Airbnb.

Solpalady · 21/06/2025 23:40

Dillydollydingdong · 21/06/2025 23:34

Yes, just go. You don't have to put up with that nonsense. Your mother needs to see a doctor. You might be able to get a cheap Airbnb.

I found a few options online.

I think I am going to do it.

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Solpalady · 22/06/2025 07:50

I packed a bag last night before going to bed. It's a stay over bag with everything I need in it for day and night. Along with my handbag.

The luggage has ended up too big. This wouldn't be an issue as such only that this morning is pouring rain and I don't have car.

My backpack isn't waterproof. I don't want the contents of my Bach to get wet.

My plan was to get up and go this morning for the day and stay overnight some where.

Sadly that might not happen now.

Am I nearly tempted to try and knock myself out for the morning with a sleeping tablet.

Unless if I wait til about noon and see if it dries up and go then.

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