My H has been through a very tough time lately with his abusive family. He doesn’t deal with stress well, in that he doesn’t deal with it at all - he ignores it and denies it, and copes by being a workaholic. As a child, he wasn’t allowed to have feelings and this is very apparent in his behaviour.
He is extremely difficult to live with at the moment. He is completely devoid of feelings and has detached even further from family life. My thinking is that he is coping with the big feelings from the recent trauma, by avoiding any feelings whatsoever. He doesn’t get happy, he doesn’t get sad.
I think he has a huge amount of anger at the situation. It scares me how he is acting, how detached. I feel like it has to explode at some point if he won’t deal with it.
He has agreed to talk to someone and get help.
Who does he talk to? My own experience of counsellors has been 3x dreadful, 1x amazing. But if he gets one dreadful, he won’t go back.
Does he go to a psychiatrist? Clinical psychologist?
Money isn’t an issue but we need to right person.
Any help would be much appreciated.