Would this exchange bother you?

[LumpyandBumps]

Maybe I’m showing my age. I was brought up to use basic manners.
I advertised an item for free on Facebook.
I had a message ‘is this still available?’
I know that this is one of the standard phrases offered via Facebook, although I never use it.
I sent back another standard phrase ‘yes, are you interested?’
The answer was ‘yes, can I collect tomorrow morning around 9.30?’
I can’t imagine asking for an item without a greeting, please or thank you. Just one would do.
I just thought I’d ask what others think.

Facebook isn't for those with manners. It's unfortunately completely normal.

Just be grateful you got a message with correct spelling, that's rare on Facebook these days. I'd have expected "dis still going"

They are letting you know they are serious (probably....). The number of people who ask if it's available and then nothing is unreal

At least they are straight to the point with a collection time though. It's the faffer arounders that are the worst.

Seems like a standard Facebook exchange to me. I’m sure if they come to collect in the morning, they will say thank you etc. Plus, it means you get rid of an item that you would otherwise have to dump/throw out. Win win.

That’s true.

It's pot luck to ne honest. I often give stuff away on a local Facebook page. Sometimes I will get a thank you, a lot of the time I won't. But yes it is basic manners and incredibly rude. Quite often someone will post asking for something with no please or thank you, along the lines of " Has anyone giving away a washing machine as mine has just broke". I find it incredibly rude and wouldn't dream of not saying please or thank you. They do sometimes get called out on it which is reassuring.

‘Is it available?’

’yes’

’can I collect?’

I see absolutely nothing wrong with that at all, I hey asked if you have it and when you confronted they asked if they could come and collect it. What exactly were you looking for, because I wouldn’t have a clue what more to add

Nothing wrong with it at all.

Now whether they turn up or not, that’s the question.

Thanks everyone.
I do agree that the most important thing is that the item is collected as arranged.
In this case I have had someone else ask
( politely) for it and they are due to collect in about 30 minutes.

I might be wrong but im sure that's an auto filled message you can just send to someone via Facebook marketplace-so maybe not intentionally short?

How did the other person ask? You say politely but what did they do differently?

I think there's a pre-populated message that you can send on FB so perhaps it was that? I agree with you though - hi, please, thanks are just basic manners that most of us are taught from an early age.

The conversation was

‘Hi, is this item still available please?
I’ve been looking for one of these.’

‘Hi, yes it is. When would you like to collect?’

‘Would around 5.45pm today be ok with you?’

‘Yes, that’s fine.’

It’s how I would have asked for something, so my responses were more positive.

Wouldn’t bother me.

But don’t expect them to turn up in the morning or let you know they’re not coming!!

I was brought up to be polite as well, spending childhood hours painstakingly writing out thank you notes to aunties and uncles for gifts received.
Today it's all about being straightforward and to the point no messing around.
Complete a transaction as quickly as possible and without unnecessary words.
I don't know what people do with all the seconds that they save themselves by not adding a few social niceties 🤷

I honestly can't see what there is to be bothered by. Sounds totally normal to me.

Did the 'politer' person collect it?

it's the same on 'Nextdoor' for items & for services...

Yes. Being polite ( or wasting a few seconds - depending upon your point of view) worked for them.
I also had more confidence that they would turn up or let me know if they weren’t coming.
The item has been collected, and they even brought me a jar of honey - they keep bees. We had a nice chat.

Oh lovely!

Exactly how it should bee!! 😊

Just be careful the next message isn't great I will send a courier. Then you know its a scam!

Yes this is right, it's one of a few 'opening' message choices you get, so it's sent at the press of a button.

Let's face it, most people in the world are numbskulls and messages from strangers on Facebook just reflect that.