‘Mr.Shark’ coming to view my vehicle for sale. Advice?

[0500hours]

My husband died in April leaving some business debts. I have to sell his work truck.

’Mr Shark’ is driving from an hour away to view at half 3 today - does anyone have advice that’s done this before?

It’s parked outside my house. Like 99% of others who enquired he wants it for Ukraine he said.

Its taxed/MOT’d/insured/alarmed etc but how does he test drive it? Does he bring his driving licence and paperwork from his own insurer to prove he’s insured? He’s just come over from Ukraine he said and wants to drive it back there for the war. What if he damages it on driving?

Should I drive it instead with him as passenger?

I’m still waiting for the DVLA new owner papers to come back so it can’t be sold today anyway, he’s just viewing it.

He wants to leave a small deposit to secure it, but then how can I be sure he’d pay the balance?

Any advice welcome. There’s nobody I can call today to help me when he views.

Thankyou so much
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Even if you are the named beneficiary, if he dies before you retire 70% of it will now go in tax if you are working in any form. Hope you get this sorted.

I've sold cars in the past, but I've only ever done it cash (and they were only cheap tin cans, too). I want to know what happened @0500hours ?

Like all good Hallmark movies @0500hours has met and fallen in love with Mr Shark, is now Mrs Shark ❤️ 💞💝 ... and they have gone on honeymoon in the pick up truck.

I love how people keep tagging and asking for an update when the OP pissed off over 24 hours ago! 🤣

It's like they think their tag and their call for an update is going to make more difference than all the others.

If that's aimed me... that wasn't my reason. I just couldn't be arsed to type out OP's name. Much easier to use the @ button 🤷‍♀️
Why do you care anyway?

You didn't ask for an update, so how can it be aimed at you?

It's obviously aimed at the people who are continually tagging and asking for an update, despite the OP not having been back for over 24 hours 😳

And I haven't said I care either?

Ah OK. Just coincidence I tagged OP just before your post. I didn't ask for an update as I am 100% convinced she'll never be back!

I know. Nuts isn't it.

But he is an egotistical bully. He deserved it; no sympathy from me. SIL was out and had no idea he'd planned and agreed it until it was loaded onto a lo-loader, that was conveniently available and just round the corner 🙄 twat of the highest order.

She's divorcing him, for other reasons. 🤣

I always say I'm buying the van for Russia. Let them know I'm serious.

The perfect ending! although it seems @0500hours is a lonely fantasist - quite sad really.

And then they’ll make baby shark do do do do do doo

Probably some big burley bloke with a beard, not a "vulnerable widow needing help" selling a truck to "Mr Shark". Whoever they are they must have read the Suzi Lamplugh story, this thread is an identical replica of that story with a few details changed.

warning to us all, don't be taken in by someone on the web who tries to paint a picture of themselves, they aren't always as they want to be perceived....

full transparency I reported this to MNHQ and their response was they'd delete "the posts that break Talk Guidelines". How ineffectual and lacking in decisive action, Well they can delete my post for stating the obvious but this thread should have been taken down in its entirety for breaking Talk Guidelines. There's no excuse, this thread doesn't serve any purpose other than prove how easy it is to get round the guidelines by being a "poor vulnerable widow" and cause people concern.

He's probably mocking mumsnetters on some forum for getting in a tizz about it and worrying what has happened.

I don't mind reminding people about Susie lamplugh. Her Mum set up an anti stalking foundation which is useful knowledge for younger women who might not have heard of her story. Every time bad actors come to this site to mock us, we can find a way to protect the vulnerable. So have a good laugh. But women have used this thread to educate and empower anyone reading who might be thinking of doing something similar.

Yes, at first I was annoyed at this wind up but, something that raises awareness again isn’t all bad.

Do you really think any actual teenager with constant internet access and all the joys of gaming, tiktok and all the hundreds of online activities is making stuff up on Mumsnet?

That's just so ridiculous, if such a person exists I'd be seriously worried about them 😊

Men posing as women definitely seems to be a thing. Its like when "women" on this site make incel comments

I agree, well said. It is astonishing to think how vulnerable women are when working alone in certain roles. I think that the vile Pelicot is also accused of attempting to rape a young estate agent in Paris and is suspected in the rape and murder of another.

Many years ago I read an article in the New York Times, which turned out to be the opening of ‘The Gift of Fear’. It tells how a rapist managed to inveigle his way into a woman’s apartment. It always stuck with me, how he managed to override her instincts.

https://archive.nytimes.com/www.nytimes.com/books/first/b/becker-fear.html

I don’t care if some troll is laughing into their beard if it keeps an innocent person safe.

@BadSkiingMum thank you for that link. It was very thought provoking.

Update

He arrived and was pleasant enough but did try to reduce price by hundreds.

Fortunately he already knew I couldn’t sell there and then because I don’t have paperwork back from DVLA.

However it’s now sold to a local woman recommended by the garage we use and she was happy to pay the asking price.

Thankyou for all your advice everyone. I’ve been on Mumsnet (different account) since my first child around 2007 or maybe couple years later, it has always been such an amazingly helpful forum.

Really glad you’re OK.

I’ve just read a couple of comments above me and someone said they’ve reported my post??

sorry I haven’t got back until now but as can be seen I’m in the middle of a lot of bereavement related admin I just haven’t had time.

Glad it all turned out well. I can relax again now.