Court Order Arrangement

[GirlMumxx]

Hi, hoping someone can help me.

My current partner has a court order with his ex for his son.

It states in the court order that in the 6 weeks holiday his son will stay with him for 2 consecutive weeks.

However, he works - do they expect him to book these two weeks off? How does it work !?

The mother doesn’t work at all so she has no issues.

You actually said you'd paid for 2 children in childcare. You haven't. Just pointing out the facts whilst you're busy slagging off the mother of your DP's other child.

well she’s not a very nice person so couldn’t care less if i’m slagging her off or not to be honest. sorry if i’ve hurt your feelings

@HeddaGarbled no they don’t expect him to book it it off. They expect him to have the child full time those week, what he does work wise and child care wise is up to him as the parent.

he can book holiday clubs and go to work, like most working parents do and those with 50/50 arrangements.

so the court expect him to have the child but how and what he does with that time is up to him so long as it’s safe and legal

No feelings hurt at all. I'm a single mum, with a disabled child. I'm fortunate enough to be a high earner and not rely on benefits, not even entitled to child benefit, but I do recognise that life is different for all of us.

Some have more family support than others, or are lucky enough to have children where finding childcare is not an issue because of their disabilities.

@socks1107

So you don’t think when the court wrote that into the order, the thought process was “dad will want to have 2 weeks with his child over the summer holidays to give him the opportunity to spend some sustained school holiday time with his child”?

Dad’s fight for that opportunity but here we’ve got one who appears to regard it as an inconvenience (or at least his girlfriend does).

@HeddaGarbled of course the ideal situation is that dad is off those two weeks.
But in the context of the question no he doesn’t have too, he can book childcare, he can leave them with another adult of his choice. as long as he is the parent with responsibility those two week’s.

Im divorced with two children and a step parent. With two full time jobs and spreading leave throughout the year on occasions I looked after my sd so my dh could work and he looked after mine so I could work, this maximised our leave and left very few days we needed holiday clubs.

it didn’t need such a response, nor did it assume he was a parent that didn’t want to see his child ( and I have an ex like that)

Thank you @socks1107this is exactly what i was aiming at!