Gift for nursery teacher?

[MummyToMNandR]

Hi Everyone

When I collected my 3 year old from nursery on Friday, I was told by one of his teachers that he had kicked one of assistants, and that she got very upset.

I asked if she was still there so I could apologise on behalf of my son and assure her that it wouldn’t happen again, but she already left. I told her that I felt terrible she said that it’s ok and it was probably because he was tired, which is no excuse.

When we got outside, I immediately tried to speak to him, I told him that he must not kick or hit anyone and she was very upset, being just 3 years of age, he doesn’t quiet understand when he has done something wrong, but he has a good memory and remembered what he did because he said “I kicked her on her leg” I then asked him why, and he said along the lines of “I said no to her” there are cameras in the nursery and I trust them our son, so not once have I thought maybe she did something to him.

It has been playing on my mind ever since, I will definitely go in and apologise to her, I was thinking maybe I should get her a little gift? If so what should I get her? Or do you think an apology is good enough?

An apology is more than enough.

It won't have been the first time she's been kicked I'm sure.

Honestly I work in Early years and it’s really kind that you’re thinking this way, but please try not to worry, he’s just three years old and still learning to cope with a range of feelings and emotions including anger. His ta will be well aware of this.
If a parent came to me to apologise on behalf of her son, it would be hugely appreciated and I would feel supported and respected by the parent.
Id do as you have done, and have a chat to your son on his level.
As his TA I would remind him that it’s ok to feel angry or cross, but it’s not ok to hit kick/ kind hands/kind feet (whatever their strategies are)

And I’d honestly leave it at that. That’s enough x

Agree with PP. But if you really want to do something, as your son is too little to write an apology note (and frankly not necessarily at a developmental level to do that anyway, depending on whether he’s just 3 or nearly 4), you could get him to draw her a picture and give it to her when you say sorry.

Yes I like this idea of him drawing her a picture/ colouring in a picture to give to her. That would be lovely