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Feel awful but I really don't think it's my fault. TW pet death

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Pebbles16 · 15/06/2025 17:33

We've been away for a few days and the shed was closed but, during the storm the door opened.
It seems that a neighbouring cat found his way into the shed and then got stuck.
Came home, opened shed to get pegs etc... cat is dead.
Obviously we weren't here so have no idea what actually happened.
Have contacted the cat's owner (we have a great neighbourhood WA group) and they have really kicked off. Called me a murderer via DM rather than in group chat.
Refuses to come round.
I feel so bad that this happened in our garden, but I really don't think it's my fault. Despite that I am in floods and don't know what to do with the cat. It's hot and I can't just leave the poor thing there.

OP posts:
Fratolish · 16/06/2025 11:03

How do you know the neighbour didn't tell them they'd seen a dead body? All the op said was 'the neighbour reported a dead body'. She's put no information about what the neighbour actually said.

Lins77 · 16/06/2025 11:05

Well, we don't know what the neighbour actually said. Maybe they did claim, untruthfully, to have direct knowledge of a body in OP's house.

Hopefully, the police have now had strong words with neighbour.

DontReplyIWillLie · 16/06/2025 11:11

cheeseandtomatobaguette · 15/06/2025 19:47

Obviously not your fault whatsoever, but if you’ve been shouting at the cat and get ‘so cross’ at them for doing cat things, it sounds like the neighbour is suspicious that you actually have done this intentionally hence calling you a murderer. If I thought you hated my cat and then it ended up dead in your garage and I believed you had a hand in it, I’d kick off too.

All you can do is reiterate that you weren’t there and it was a terrible accident. Do you have a Ring doorbell that would back up that you weren’t home when cat went missing?

You sound a bit unhinged.

K0OLA1D · 16/06/2025 11:13

Not remotely your fault op. My cat went missing a few weeks ago when the weather was really hot and after posters and asking neighbours we found her in the garden that backs on to us garage. Thankfully it had only been 24 hours. These things happen when you let cats roam. You did nothing wrong x

charliehungerford · 16/06/2025 12:59

cheeseandtomatobaguette · 15/06/2025 19:47

Obviously not your fault whatsoever, but if you’ve been shouting at the cat and get ‘so cross’ at them for doing cat things, it sounds like the neighbour is suspicious that you actually have done this intentionally hence calling you a murderer. If I thought you hated my cat and then it ended up dead in your garage and I believed you had a hand in it, I’d kick off too.

All you can do is reiterate that you weren’t there and it was a terrible accident. Do you have a Ring doorbell that would back up that you weren’t home when cat went missing?

I think if someone had intentionally harmed a neighbour’s cat they wouldn’t be contacting them to tell them their cat was dead. They’d dispose of it quietly.

namechangedforvalidreasons · 16/06/2025 14:27

Reductio ad absurdum, in this case used to express disbelief at the actions of the attending officers. We have the OP, who has from information given, had her house pulled apart after a complaint by a disgruntled neighbour whose cat appears to have died (likely of underlying causes, but certainly through no fault of the OP) on OPs premises. She seemed to take it as mockery of her, which was not at all my intention, and I hope she’s less shaken now.

Apparently the attending officers, even after OP explained that there had been heated messages sent by the aggrieved complainant on the same day, and after seeing physical evidence of a dead animal, conducted a thorough search for ANOTHER corpse. On the face of it, this doesn’t actually sound like something the police would ordinarily do, no, because even if there’s a report of a dead body in a house, the police are not necessarily ‘going to look for it.’

This is because there are limited circumstances in which they can search. It’s unlikely but not impossible that they could have obtained a warrant given the timescale. Another PP asked what the warrant said, this is because had they obtained a warrant they would have had to have a reasonable apprehension a crime had been committed - this apprehension would depend on the evidence provided to them. Who the hell knows what NdN said, maybe she said OP is Cruella De Ville, but what we DO know is that there was evidence presented to the police by the OP when they attended the address, ie. accusatory texts about a dead cat sent by the complainant on the same afternoon. There was also a dead cat, which the OP could prove had caused her distress and which she had tried to re-unite with its people.

This might well have indicated that an officer should re-interview the neighbour before deciding on whether or not to conduct a search, which as the OP has said, is disruptive and invasive. The disposal of any other at-this-point hypothetical body could have been prevented by placing officers in the house rather than pulling it apart.

In the absence of a warrant, even if the homeowner agreed to a search, there has to be an apprehension that a crime has been committed. Here, there had been a disclosure from the homeowner which raised a question of whether the initial complaint was vexatious. Such complaints are not unheard of and could absolutely have led the officer to determine there were insufficient grounds for a search, either with or without a warrant, without further investigation.

However nice they were to OP, professional judgement does come into play. The police do have a duty to investigate complaints, yes, but they are bound by procedures which must be followed, and be applied proportionately, as PPs have already explained.

Of course, the OP was innocent, shocked shitless and most people are understandably reluctant to argue with the cops.

I don’t see how this helps the OP, as what is done is done, but I won’t bother offering a critique on your post, given that you already know everything!

namechangedforvalidreasons · 16/06/2025 14:33

Oh, above post addressed to @fernhurst,the quote disappeared.

Pebbles16 · 16/06/2025 21:03

Thank you all for keeping me company last night.
The neighbour was taken to hospital today with delirium. Her son contacted me to apologise and has gone onto the WA to say his Mum is unwell, Seems like a combination of a UTI and the heat. She is not elderly, but obviously had a bad turn.
Plus, learning her cat died, I can understand that she was tipped over the edge.

I am still a bit shaken but feel reassured by you all and her son (who is lovely and only moved out at the end of last year).

OP posts:
Pebbles16 · 16/06/2025 21:16

Oh, and in response to the questions about the police - it's the Met (who are seriously underfunded) and I spent most of the time they were here apologising for the fuss.
They have sent me a report summary and my own crime reference number should I "wish to pursue a malicious complaint". I will not be doing that.

OP posts:
Wheech · 16/06/2025 21:32

Pebbles16 · 16/06/2025 21:03

Thank you all for keeping me company last night.
The neighbour was taken to hospital today with delirium. Her son contacted me to apologise and has gone onto the WA to say his Mum is unwell, Seems like a combination of a UTI and the heat. She is not elderly, but obviously had a bad turn.
Plus, learning her cat died, I can understand that she was tipped over the edge.

I am still a bit shaken but feel reassured by you all and her son (who is lovely and only moved out at the end of last year).

You've handled this with class and grace throughout and seems you were right to do so, well done.

Fwiw I've had a cat go missing and never return. I'm sure you've heard it enough on this thread but none of this is your fault. Cats wander and the price they pay for being wild is very sadly that they may die in ways they would not if they had been wrapped in cotton wool.

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