Would you have found this comment rude?

[Sunshadows]

I felt a bit insulted tbh! I work in a department store, and many of us buy our lunch from the nearby bakery.

I was next in the queue this morning, and the man serving said 'And what can I get for you, young lady?' Before I could answer, my colleague behind me said 'YOUNG' lady?!! He replied 'Well I can hardly call my customers OLD' can I?!

I just laughed, ordered and left, but felt a bit hurt that my colleague (we don't work in the same department), must see me as 'old'! I'm 53 btw and she's in her mid-30's. We often chat, and I find her a lovely person, so didn't expect this comment!

People often assume I'm in my 40's, so I can't look THAT old, surely?

Anyone over 30 is ancient according to anyone under 30. Don’t worry about it. One day they will be your age and look back and think how entitled they were.

I think that your colleague might have been reacting to the server's twattishness.

Well you're not young are you? I wouldn't be offended and I'm a good ten years younger than you. I'm not young.

Sorry to be bucking the trend here, but yeah, occasionally you still come in contact with people (always men btw) in the service industry that greet customers (always women 🤨 )like that.
Most of us just grin and bear it, but what I do think is rude is someone behind you in line, piping up like that; now that is what I call rude, and of course the server's response by agreeing with the rude woman didn't help much.

They were both rude. He doesn’t need to call his customers either young or old. I bet he doesn’t call men Young Man. It’s patronising. But it’s your call to say anything. Your colleague shouldn’t have said anything. You sound a bit sensitive though. Old is in the eye of the beholder. It really doesn’t matter what random people think of as old. It’s all relative. A school mum I know thinks forty is unthinkably ancient. Her partner often mistakes parents over thirty five for grandparents. They are twenty seven 🙄

Thank you all. The man who served me is at the counter several days a week. He always addresses me, and most other women as 'Young lady' or 'Lovely'. I like him, and actually think it's nice he addresses us like that!

My colleague was surprisingly tactless though. I don't think I've ever heard her make a negative comment, so I was a bit taken aback!

And I know I'm not 'young', but I don't feel ancient either!

You are really over thinking this one.

He shouldn't have called you 'young lady'. It's patronising. He was called out on it. No offence was likely intended on either side. She would probably have said the same thing if he'd said it to her.

Your co worker was rude, but maybe she just instinctively replied out loud before engaging her 'good nanners' brain. It happens.🤷🏻‍♀️

what was he supposed to say??

it'll be interesting to see what he says in the future,

there's middle ground between young & ancient.

im 56, since my recent hospital visit &heath 'event' I've gone from middle aged to 'fuck who is that old woman in the mirror' depressing, but I'm trying to focus on 'being glad I'm still alive & appreciative' it wasn't worse.

While avoiding mirrors/glass/cameras.

it's a bugger not being or looking 21 anymore, but such is life...

It's only patronising if you choose to take it that way.

Nobody was saying you're ancient though. It's you that's chosen to take it that way.

This. It wouldn’t bother me. Nor would love, dear, pet, or any other term people often use.