Depressed or this is adult working life?

[Midlifecrisis23]

I don’t want to work, I know I have to but my days I feel like I hate it all. Does anyone actually like their job and manage it all?

I want to be here for my children and do the school runs. I feel like I’m constantly doing a half hearted job with kids / family life and then at work.

I honestly feel like I could just sit and cry for hours. I really want a break but know it’s impossible. We have no family support and while my husband can watch the kids for a few hours on the weekend (and is an amazing supportive DH) I really want a full day of laying in bed and doing nothing and no one needing anything.

I cant help but feel jealous that my sister and BIL are going for a long weekend to south of France with no kids as his parents are having them. I feel like jealousy is an awful character and I have so much to be grateful for. Yet I just wanted to cry all day.

I think your main problem is that your husband is only capable of watching his own kids for a few hours at a time. This contradicts what you say about him being a supportive husband.

If I were you I’d start there.

I don't have family support for both my husband and me to go away for a long weekend so the compromise fir us is solo weekends away.

I have been to Iceland and Norway recently with friends, could you do something similar? Could just be a weekend break in UK

Sorry I feel like you may have jumped the gun, he can 100% do long weekends and I have twice. But I feel so guilty leaving him by himself and he’s the same. We try to be fair and equal.

I like this idea, we just don’t have much money to be able to afford it. I also have separation anxiety which I’m working on

Separation anxiety from your DH or your DC?

What do you like doing to relax OP?

And do more of that with the kids at the weekend

If you like sitting around eating nice food and playing board games or cards, find some age games they can play
Or take them to a pool
Or a walk
Or a picnic
Or read together
Or bake
Or draw
Or run
Or cinema
Or shopping even

Or do chores together. Let them “help”
If you have no family help you can change your mindset

You just do the stuff you enjoy with them (modified perhaps)

I'm the opposite. I work a couple of days a week (finish at 3pm) so do ALL school runs and picks up and husband is home at 630pm. I feel like I'm going mad!!! I could cry too because I find my life so utterly mindnumbingly boring. Some would say I'm being ungrateful but I don't feel I use my brain much or get any sort of stimulation during the day. It's just housekeeping , kids, dinners and isolation. I get zero help. I dream of running away but I love my kids too much. I'm actually thinking of getting a full time job amd childminder because my life before was so much better!

Not sure if this will be unpopular but if you’re at breaking point and need a day in bed take a sick day from work and do it.