Mum being bullied by neighbours

[Hobnobsarethebest22]

Name changed as potentially outing. My mums being bullied by two neighbours. I can't do anything because she's asked me not to say anything. I've come for a holiday to her house and I feel rage like bubbling inside me about how they treat her. Their presence when we come and go is also making me feel really anxious. I don't know why I'm posting really apart from just needing to say it somewhere and not having anyone to talk to about it.

Can you give some examples?
What type of property does she live in? Is there any scope to put up fences or change garden layouts?
Does she own or rent? Is there any realistic prospect if her being able to move?

Without the detail you won’t get great advice.

Bullies look for weakness. When you visit, if you feel intimidated, your body language will show it. Head up, shoulders back, act confident. Even if you are not. Have the self belief and confidence of Liam Gallagher.

Intimidating behaviour, leaving her out of events the street are part of, ignoring her, blocking her being able to park. Council won't help at all.
It's a terrace, there's no way of changing garden or fences. She could move but it would be desperately sad if it came to that, she loves this beautiful home as we all do.

What level is the intimidating behaviour? Because threatening someone is a crime and you should encourage your mum to report.

ignoring her and trying to leave her out of street ‘events’ is nasty pathetic behaviour but tbh if your mum wants to join in street stuff she should go ahead, or just stay out of it.

how are they blocking her from parking? Can she park outside their house if they’re doing the same to her?

it sounds horrible for your poor mum but I would really encourage her to speak up because bullies thrive on what they perceive as weakness

Take a breath, and explain properly, in detail and we will try to provide support.

It happened to me in my last house. It was my next door neighbour and her daughter’s- they were odious. Thankfully they didn’t organise events but the parking situation was terrible. I moved and my neighbours are wonderful now.

I have had my share of vile neighbours in the past, and really the only thing to do is to move. I know your mum loves the house but if her peace of mind is affected, that is reason enough. Home is a feeling as much as a place.

When you say intimidating behaviour, what exactly are they doing? Ignoring her and not including her in events they've organised is unpleasant but not sure I'd call it bullying. How are they blocking her from parking? Does your mum have a good relationship with other neighbours? Are any of them having problems with the nasty neighbour?

Honestly? She should just move sooner rather than later.

My parents went through years of hell trying the correct channels before they gave up and sold their house at auction.