Am I just broody or do I want another child?

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I've just turned 30 and have a 10 year old(Almost 11). My partner is 27 and doesn't have any children of his own. A couple years ago I thought I didn't want any more children however over the last 6 months I have been getting extremely broody and obsessed with the thought of having another child. I have thought over everything in great detail and I think I want another child but I'm still also torn. I had a terrible labour and recovery with my DD and we currently live in a large 2 bedroom house so could potentially turn it into a 3 bed. Thought about all the money costs and everything too but besides all of that I'd be so excited to have another child. My DD would love to have a sibling however I'm also worried that she would get jealous or feel left out as she has had me to herself for 10 years. I'm also worried about the big age gap.

Any advice would be great. Am I just having a moment of broodyness? How do I cope with a big age gap? Not sure what the point of this post is rather than just go get all my feelings out🤦🏻‍♀️.

Thank you if you made it to the end of the post x

How does your partner feel? Would he like a child of his own or is he happy as it is? You really need to consider his feelings too. I'm sure your dd would be delighted but feelings of jealousy are normal too, particularly when she was an only for so long.

I think its really understandable to get broody as you get older and now your child is turning into a teenager too its entering a whole new stage of life for you .
How would it be for you to lose all if your current freedoms ? Can you afford another child ? If your daughter spends time with her dad does that mean you have time for yourself that you would very much miss ?
I dont think I would be able to go backwards and start all over again when ive gotten through the young child stage .

My partner would love to have a child. From when we first got together I expressed to him that I didn't want anymore and he is okay with that but expressed that if I did ever change my mind he would love to have his own child one day too.

Freedoms as such doesn't particularly bother me as I don't have much of a social life anyway and I have my partner and a very supportive family and friends. We can afford another child but wouldn't have as much disposable income. My daughter goes to her dad's every other weekend so that would be the only time I'd miss having to myself but even then I know if I wanted to go do something my partner could either have the baby or I could take them with me. I am in very much two minds and it's hard. I've spoke to my partner about it and we've said that if we did decide to have a child we wouldn't start trying until next year at the earliest.

I would do the work on the house now to made it bigger and then start trying next year if you're still broody? Always nice to have a bigger house

The trouble is it would mean turning the second bedroom(my daughter's) into two bedrooms as she has the biggest bedroom. I wouldn't want to do this unless we needed to as it'll cost quite a bit of money and we don't have a need for a 3rd bedroom if we don't have another child if that makes sense. Obviously we can have the baby in our room for a year or two so would give us time to create the 3rd bedroom