Adult DD and careers advice please. At my wits end

[Confusedmom25]

I would appreciate some advice please. Long time mumsnetter since 2004.
Dd, now 22, did a degree in business admin with marketing, not found a job yet, 10 months on. Currently doing waitressing which she enjoys, but not what she wants to do for a career. Unfortunately, she gets very stressed, goes weeks without applying, only to get a telephone interview and then nothing. One week she got 3 rejection emails wgich we counted as a win because they at least bothered to reply to her.
I dont know what to suggest. She no longer wants to do anything matketing related which she was super enthused about 7 months ago. Refuses to explore anything suggested by her brother, as she saya she doeant want to use nepotism. Her words. Ive suggested she do a masters but that just stresses her and she ends up blaming me for not giving her usable ideas. Im a doctor, so very straightforward career path and a bit clueless about the real world, her words. Im at my wits end as she blames me for everything wrong in her life, refuses to recognise that i also have stressors going on in my life, and well, it all goes into a downward spiral. Yesterday she said she feels she cant speak eloquently, so i suggested political campaigning as a tool to help her inprove but because thats her brothers thing, she flat out said no. But not having a job is severely impacting her confidence
Does anyone have any thoughts on what i can do or how to help her?

Don’t try and rescue her by solving things for her. Let her problem solve it herself.

eg She says she can’t speak eloquently.
You say - “Sounds like it’s playing on your mind. I wonder why you feel like that?”
— She might offer some explanation.

You say, “I can see it’s tough for you. Have you thought about what you can do about it?”
(if yes, what did she find?)

Ask if she wants your help - “What can I do to help?”

Don't just assume she needs your help (she might just be venting her frustration). Encourage her to problem solve and praise when she does.

Be her support/cheerleader/mentor; she will feel much better if she problem solves things herself, providing resilience and independence.

I would pack her off to Australia to extend her marketing experience, my DD’s friend 26 left her marketing job in London on a working visa spending set periods of time with three different companies and is being paid more for her four day week than five days a week in London!
She’s loving life out there.