One of my aunts - I used to like her and I still do something there is something unfolding. She has gone somewhat quiet over the past 2/3 years. She stopped visiting my mother and there's no communication between them. I am guessing my aunt is pushing it back to my mother to make an effort, at a guess.
That's never going to happen. My mother has no awareness and she's not able to reflect and she can be anti social too and basically I wouldn't be surprised if dementia is happening too with her.
Thier relationship is nothing at this stage. They don't visit each other, they don't phone or write letters - nil.
My partner works in a bar/restaurant that is my aunt's local. Maybe about once a month or once every 2 months, I don't know - my aunt goes into the bar and they do the general chit chatting and casual chat stuff.
My partner keeps telling me this though. He says things like X was in and was requiring for ye (referring to me and my mother).
My issue is that I am sick of this and my partner being a middle man. My aunt and my mother - their communication together has completely died and my partner is being used a middle man. There is no need to ask him how we are when they have a phone and speak to each other.
I am thinking about contacting the aunt and telling her to f off and leave my partner out from whatever sort of relationship failure she has with her sister.
What do you think