Do you have hobbies

[Saarahhii]

Im 26yo have 3.5yo and 1.5yo. Been a bit hectic the last few years haha!

I felt like I put me on pause as I got pregnant not long after eldest turned 1. I thought this is normal im quite anxious I don't love always leaving the kids.

So currently my life is my kids, i work part time 3 days and other days have my kids.

DH just has a go at me though. Says I don't have a life. I don't do anything. My life is my kids and they'll grow up and I'll be alone. He said I don't like anything

I do like things I like going outdoors we always go outdoors as a family and yes my kids are my life ? I don't think thats bad?

Hes outdoorsy and goes on hikes and climbs all the time. I appreciate him going sometimes because as you can imagine he is tough to deal with sometimes.

It .makes me sad when he says those things about me like im any less of a person because I don't have a hobby yet. Surely its normal? Especially as like i say i have 2 young kids

I think it's normal to not have the head space for hobbies when your children are little but I do see it as a positive thing that he is encouraging you to do things for you. I assume that means as you are looking after the kids whilst he's hiking he would look after them whilst you did something you like.

I never really leave the kids with him the only times I leave them really is nursery when I work or with my parents for sleepovers they love their nan and grandad

Are there any at home hobbies i could do maybe

What were your interests before you had children? As a young Adult, I used to love taking pictures, and going off riding on my bike. That was just something that I used to get a lot of pleasure from. It does not need to be classed as a hobby, as such. Now, years later, I enjoy going to see photographic exhibitions, when I can. Just carve out some time to do what you enjoy.

With a 1 and 3 year old you're doing well to get through the day unscathed. To have someone tell me what I should ALSO be doing would tip me over the edge.