Is it normal to feel hurt by their words?

[Lillabetty]

I have 2 children from my previous relationship ages 6 and 2.

I left their dad nearly two years ago due to domestic abuse.

Im having a tough time with my 6 year old his behaviour is getting very bad at school im getting phone calls daily telling me the negative things he's done and at least twice a week im told to go to the school to remove him. There's various agencies involved with us children services being the main one.

Last week he refused for me to take him home from school kept saying he doesnt want to go to my house that he hates me wished I was dead. He eventually got out of that "phase" enough to come home and be happy about it.

He's said few things over the last few weeks that's really cut me deep. Telling me that he wished I was dead, that he only has one parent being his dad, he doesnt want to see me anymore, he hates our house told me that his dad's better than me he also said and i qoute "no wonder daddy didnt love you, youre so ugly etc.

He thinks the sun shines out of his dad's arse it intact doesnt my son was witness to pretty much all the abuse I got.

Ive also noticed whenever my 2-year-old gets upset or I tell her off for doing something she shouldn't she crys and only wants daddy.

I feel heart broken and lost

I also forgot to add that me and dad have 50/50 custody

Sounds like he could be alienating your son against you ... tell children's services your concerns make a note of all your children's behaviours, if there was DV how has he got 50/50 or shared care.
Is this a verbal agreement between yourselves having 50/50.

Ive told everything I can to the child services also had meetings with the school to discuss ive expressed to everyone my concerns hopefully people are going to listen to me. There was no physical DV it was coercive and controlling abuse which is still happening now but it's very hard to prove as there's no paper trail to it as he only talks to me face to face. We have a communication book which all he documents in it is what good the children have eaten there.

Yes verbal agreement I had to agree with it otherwise he refused to leave my home at the time police and my housing was involved but said because he hadnt been physical with me they couldn't do anything. Took me 9 months to finally get him out of my home.

I had a meeting with finding freedom charity yesterday they've sent over some numbers for solicitors to talk through possible court help.

He has told me that he won't agree to anything less that 50/50