Is it weird to suggest living with a friend?

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My friend and I have been close since school, we are mid 20s. I earn £50k and rent alone. I’m single so independently cover all bills etc.

My friend moved in with her partner and his entire family - including his parents, grandparents, brother, his wife, their kids. She wants her own place but her partner doesn’t want to move out of his parent’s home. So basically she decided to leave him.

I’m wondering if it would be weird if I suggest to her that we live together for a bit?

Maybe like rent together for a year. My thought process is we trust each other and can split bills which would allow us to save money. Plus it might give her time to figure out her relationship and might give me time to meet someone, and in the meantime we would have fun living together. I just worry that it’s not the done thing so feel like it might be weird to suggest.

Where is this place? I might be interested in not too distant future..please pm me if possible.

Why is it weird. Plenty of people have flat mates. Set some boundaries and expectations if you do. Like, no parties on a work night or how you split bills.
I rented with 4 girls in my early 20s, one was my best friend and the other 2, one was her friend and the other was a friend of that friend.
We had a brilliant wild time, we all did like drinking wine and it was super dun. Arguments were mostly about people leaving the bathroom messy, or someone bringing back people and making noise on a monday night. But that was a 4 person houseshare so was a bit crazy. We called it the big sister house and it was brilliant.

Just tell everyone yes you are partners :/

If that is a requirement to share a flat
Tell them nothing who cares if it suits you both ?

This reminds me of when my mum minced her words when my friend knocked for me and came into our house during a large family gathering when I was about 20, and she said to the whole family 'Everyone, this is todayisthedays partner Sally' 😂
My whole family, jaws to the floor, my friend was like WTAF 😂i was gobsmacked.
I am not gay, but if i was.. what a way to come out 😂

The best years of my life were living with my bestie in my twenties - so much fun! Don't venture into it lightly though. If you think she's likely to reconcile with her boyfriend, you don't want to be involved in that.

As long as she doesn’t bring that boyfriend with her
My daughter’s share a house not particularly willingly but for practical reasons
All goes well and is fine unless one of them has a romantic partner that they bring around too often

my ds, thanks to a good job got a mortgage and home in his 20’s. 3 spare bedrooms and 2 extra bathrooms.
the first friend to come stay he knew from the age of 12, initially suffered a serious shoulder injury and couldn’t work, certainly stayed 5 years as he healed and paid back loans. Next came a work colleague, who came home from work early to find his wife in bed with another man, this fellow turned to the bottle and was at risk of loosing so much he stayed till sober/divorce finalized and there were a couple others. They paid what they could, he’s never mentioned getting shafted.
Friends help one another.

I lived with four men in my early to mid-twenties. All good mates and we had great fun (except one had an awful girlfriend who would destroy the kitchen when cooking and not tidy up!), ask your friend, enjoy your youth and please save up for a deposit while you're at it (hindsight is a wonderful thing).

Great idea. Also don’t rule out buying together either.

Sometimes it's a good way to lose a friend.

Honestly, I don’t know why more people don’t do it. Living with a friend, splitting bills, saving money. What’s not to like?

Lots of the financial benefits of a house share, but a grown up version.

Just imagining my best friend moving in for a bit, and sending DP to live with her DP 😂

Like in Spaced

Not weird at all. You'll both save money and have companionship. Have fun!

I bought a house with a friend, as neither of us could get onto the property ladder, with an intention of selling after a few years to then have a bigger deposit for each of us alone. I then met my DP, who bought out his share after about 15 months of us owning it. He then was able to buy his own property nearby. Really glad we did it.

So... a houseshare? Completely and totally normal and I'm surprised you feel its regressing at this age. Having said that, once I started living alone, I wouldn't have wanted to go back to living with other people in a house share, so I can appreciate that from that perspective it's a step back.

My advice would be to very much see it as a house share and not a more twee "flatmates" type vibe. Make sure you both have enough space for independence etc.

"We're ....er.... a couple" was on our answerphone when I first lived with now DH lol.
@Noluthando

it’s completely normal

Just talk through what you each want, the likely commitment period

My friend moved in with me for about a year, she split from her partner, I was widowed, we were late thirties & had the best time!
She ended up buying the house next door when it came up for sale!

I’ve never lived alone. I lived with friends for over 10 years before DH

I think it would be weird NOT to suggest it! This isn’t the 1800s when you were expected to live with your parents until you got married.