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Felt like I was being judged

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TheMasterplan23 · 05/06/2025 10:18

Hi, I’m feeling very low right now and just need to vent really.

I end up in A&E every 5/6 months due to a condition I have. I was diagnosed with this 16 years ago and have had numerous operations and take tablets daily. It’s quite an unusual condition and I generally have to explain it to HCP. I understand this completely though as nobody can know about every condition.

I was taken in to A&E last week due to a flare up with my condition, which I couldn’t control with my pain meds/oramorph etc. The paramedics were wonderful, very reassuring and empathetic. I was taken in to a room in A&E and by this time I was barely awake and not really with it all, due to all the medication that I’d been given but I was aware of two staff members that were doing my Obs laughing at me. They were saying “she’s obviously not that bad….she’s done her eyebrows before she came in” then a bit later “If she had time to do her make up she should have shaved her legs” then lots of giggling.

Now I get everyone needs to have a laugh sometimes and I used to work for the NHS and I know just how tiring and stressful it can be but these comments made me feel awful. I wanted to sit up and say “actually this is yesterdays make up but I felt too unwell to take it off last night” but I just didn’t have the energy.

I felt embarrassed and mostly sad, sad that someone would almost question wether my pain was genuine, just because my eyebrows still looked ok.

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pikkumyy77 · 05/06/2025 10:20

How horrible! Just unforgivable. I am sorry that happened to you.

Flipslop · 05/06/2025 10:21

Oh my gosh, that’s so bad of them, please report it. You were very vulnerable and in pain and they took the piss out of you, bang out of order. I’m really sorry that happened to you

AutumnLover1989 · 05/06/2025 10:21

Definitely needs reporting. Vile 😞

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Ilovemychocolate · 05/06/2025 10:25

Gross!
please report this

TheMasterplan23 · 05/06/2025 10:29

Do you really think I should report it? I didn’t know if I was making a bigger deal about it because I still feel so lousy. I don’t want anyone getting in to trouble for a few misjudged comments but I’d also hate to think what else they’re saying about other people.

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ItsSoFoggy · 05/06/2025 10:29

I’ve had similar treatment in hospital.
I had closed my eyes but wasn’t asleep and I heard a nurse say “she’s obviously exaggerating her symptoms and faking” (I wasn’t and I was diagnosed with a serious long term illness) and they threw a lever arch file onto my bed forcefully and laughed.

DaisyChain505 · 05/06/2025 10:33

100% report this. No person should be mocked or judged whilst in hospital, no matter the reason or severity.

Im sorry this happened to you.

L00pyLou · 05/06/2025 10:34

There are no excuses for this behaviour - report them

TheMasterplan23 · 05/06/2025 10:34

ItsSoFoggy · 05/06/2025 10:29

I’ve had similar treatment in hospital.
I had closed my eyes but wasn’t asleep and I heard a nurse say “she’s obviously exaggerating her symptoms and faking” (I wasn’t and I was diagnosed with a serious long term illness) and they threw a lever arch file onto my bed forcefully and laughed.

It’s a horrible feeling isn’t it? I’ve had to justify my pain so many times it’s awful.
Thankfully for me, my condition only really plays up a few times a year and the rest of the time I’m absolutely fine.
I feel so sympathetic towards people that are constantly in pain and aren’t believed.

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TheMasterplan23 · 05/06/2025 10:36

Thankyou everyone for your understanding. I will report it and hopefully these staff members will get some additional training so they understand how inappropriate and upsetting their comments were.

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