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Struggling to come to terms with never having anything properly nice.

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Sulking · 01/06/2025 22:56

I know, this is so first world problems and I get it. But I’m 30, married with 2 children so really I’m quite blessed.

But we’re on the breadline now more than ever. I had to quit working full time due to burnt out causing me to have a slight mental breakdown while trying to tackle longstanding anxiety/depression. I still work part time around childcare hours.

We’re both averagely paid, we have a little debt now which we’ve acquired over the last few years. We used to be so much better off and with the economy and me not working as much we’re really feeling the sting.

I was talking to DH earlier about how a close friend has just moved house and they’ve brought this lovely big family home with a
lovely driveway, outbuilding, a nice utility room.. just an overall nice spacious family home.. I said I’d love a home like that and it got me thinking about the other things I’d like to have; I’d love to have a nice, semi luxury car.. not like a Bentley or Lamborghini but just something that feel luxurious, I’d love to be able to buy furniture not off marketplace or B&M.. I’d love to hire a decorator to paint and wallpaper our house… I’d love nice quality curtains!

and now I’ve upset myself with the realisation we will never win these things. It’s unaffordable for us. I just feel like I see friends and acquaintances that seem to have their shit together..

DH agreed that we will always struggle to some degree and we’ll never be able to afford a bigger home or to buy proper quality furniture new🤣 it’s seems to petty written out doesn’t it? But I’m gutted I’m going to grow old and die in a house filled with B&M crap.

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IhateMondaymornings · 01/06/2025 23:06

I remember my mum yearning for matching curtains. “All I want it is…” I remember being so happy in that house when I was a child I can’t remember what the furniture or the curtains were like as my memories are about how I felt and what we did. They were the best times with no matching curtains.

CanelliniBeans · 01/06/2025 23:14

Your friend with the utility room, she will probably be wishing for a bigger room. Lots of people want something more than they have. Try and focus on what you do have

Azandme · 01/06/2025 23:14

I have a decent income, a nice house, a nice car, holidays...

And I'm struggling to come to terms with the fact that I will never have a second child.

Comparison really is the thief of joy.

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