so I’m in a group of 6 schoolfriends. We have a WhatsApp group. 4 have remained very close. 2 of the 4 know each other from very early childhood. Other two lived close to each other for a while. .
I was close to one for a while but I realise now we were more drinking/ social buddies.
so basically I only get contacted at birthdays and Christmas to chip in etc. And I’ve kinda realised that maybe i don’t have much in common with this group anymore and I think they must feel the same as I only get the contacts as above.
I’m thinking it’s time for me to let the group go and move on but I feel mean doing this. But I don’t know why. Whenever I attend their birthdays I feel left out as they talk about all the times they’ve met in between. And I just don’t have that connection with any of them anymore. So there’s another birthday coming up and I know I’ll feel the same and probably shouldn’t go just to feel left out but then I feel mean. I realise this all sounds very schooldrama. And to be honest my life’s changed a lot since school and I don’t feel I’m the same person these days so maybe it’s a reminder of a time I don’t want to relive.
so basically I feel like I’m clinging onto this group for the shared memories. But it just doesn’t feel the same now that they are all so close and I’m not included. So do I just bow out now or attend the birthday first and call it quits after, as I feel a bit mean. Not sure why as I’m convinced they’ll not be bothered if I’m there or not!