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Wedding gift

13 replies

kissmyfatass · 01/06/2025 09:52

Not invited to wedding or evening. Not surprised or expected.

I want to give a card though but should I put money in it.

Not a friend as such more like a neighbour

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KIlliePieMyOhMy · 01/06/2025 10:03

Send a card only.

Givemethesun · 01/06/2025 10:10

Card and champagne?

FleurDeFleur · 01/06/2025 10:13

Card only.

kissmyfatass · 01/06/2025 10:23

Feels a bit mean to just give a card. It’s a young couple and I’m chuffed to bits for them.

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FleurDeFleur · 01/06/2025 10:26

kissmyfatass · 01/06/2025 10:23

Feels a bit mean to just give a card. It’s a young couple and I’m chuffed to bits for them.

Well, ask for details and give them a bank transfer then.

Latenightreader · 01/06/2025 10:27

Card and a bottle of wine or a voucher?

BeaLola · 01/06/2025 10:31

For my neighbours daughter who was early 20s when she married (lovely couple) I gave them a card with a €50 note inside saying for a drink/treat on honeymoon (they were going for a long weekend in Rome)

For others I've given a £50 or £100 M&S voucher figuring you can buy all sorts there

MayaPinion · 01/06/2025 10:32

Why? You don’t have to give them anything.

kissmyfatass · 01/06/2025 13:46

I’m going to put some cash in the card. Just wanted to check it wasn’t weird.

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Saz12 · 01/06/2025 13:48

A card & a bottle of something is nice. Maybe a plant or similar instead - something nice but not too permanent! Personally, Id not give money or a voucher in these circumstances.

Justkeepingplatesspinning · 01/06/2025 14:16

I got cards and presents from neighbours who had seen me growing up. They were all outside to see me set off from my parents' house on the day. A really elderly widowed lady gave me a silver cake slice and knife that she had received as a wedding present many years before. Another gave me salad tongs, again they had been a wedding gift to her. I think those presents meant more than anything else! Both ladies are long deceased but I always think of them if I am using cake knife or salad tongs!
A wee bit of cash in the envelope with the card will likely be welcomed and appreciated.

ExtensiveDebating · 01/06/2025 14:19

I'd do cash or an M&S / JL giftcard, between £25 and £50 depending on budget and how well you know them. Not a bottle unless you know for definite they will drink it (we don't drink any sparkling wines but have been given many bottles of them over the years).

SheridansPortSalut · 01/06/2025 14:20

kissmyfatass · 01/06/2025 13:46

I’m going to put some cash in the card. Just wanted to check it wasn’t weird.

It's weird.

A small gift would be better.

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