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What is standard procedure when you are inside your house and you make eye contact with a neighbour who is in their house?

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thecatislying · 30/05/2025 23:02

Our houses are built pretty close together.
It has never been a problem before, but the house to the left has recently started using a bedroom that has a window directly facing our massive kitchen window.

I do concede that it's not wholly unreasonable of them to decide to make use of a room in their house, but at the same time, I keep making eye contact with them while I'm in my kitchen.

This morning I was standing alone at my sink trying to fit a large spatula in my mouth to scrape off the golden cheesy bits that had stuck when Mrs Next Door, in dressing gown and hair net, flung open the curtains. We locked eyes and I don't think either of us particularly enjoyed the encounter.

So far I have been pretending that it's not happening and I haven't noticed. It's not a wildly convincing strategy, but it's all I can think of. Dh suggests giving them a cheery wave. Mortifying.

Diagram, because I know you'll want one. I've included the lovely view because it's the reason I'm not rushing to stick up frosted plastic. Blue box is my kitchen window. Red box is their bedroom window.

What is standard procedure when you are inside your house and you make eye contact with a neighbour who is in their house?
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CrispyK · 31/05/2025 08:13

As an aside YABU to be eating something that offers golden cheesy bits in the morning 😆

DinoLil · 31/05/2025 08:15

I'd wave the spatula, then do some exaggerated licking, a thumbs up then repeat! By then, she'll be so embarrassed at being caught out nosying that she'll get some curtains ASAP.

StarlightLady · 31/05/2025 08:17

Cook the next meal naked. Then they might wake up to the overlooking 😀.

MrsGusset · 31/05/2025 08:20

smallstitch · 31/05/2025 07:59

Maintain the peep!

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user1476613140 · 31/05/2025 08:21

Just get privacy glass.

MagpiePi · 31/05/2025 08:32

I suppose you should be grateful she was wearing a dressing gown. If I was your neighbour you would have got a full frontal. 🫤

loveyoutothemoonandtosaturn · 31/05/2025 08:36

I love this thread! We have similar in that the window at the top half of our stairs looks in to our neighbours kitchen. A bit further away than you seem to be from your excellent diagram but still close. When I'm coming down the stairs I will see them cooking away or feeding the baby etc. We just ignore each other if our eyes meet, but still friendly if we meet in the street. Even more so if we meet in our cars, big cheery waves every time!! But must not acknowledge each other in our own homes lol.

SlenderRations · 31/05/2025 10:31

I agree that your core strategy here is to get them to put up sheetrs. Some excellent tactics to achieve this outlined above.

HotCrossBunplease · 31/05/2025 10:43

Go straight round there clutching a bottle of rosé and a box of tissues, give her a massive hug and say “u OK hun?” and when she recoils in horror say “Oh, well I saw you were sleeping in the spare room so I assumed that Roger must be up to his old tricks again?”

Climbingrosexx · 01/08/2025 17:17

Apart from the suggestion of maybe venetian or those day and night roller blinds which seem to be all the rage now, I don't have anything inventive to suggest, I think it's all been covered 😂. I will say what a breath of fresh air this thread is. The last one I was following everyone was at eachothers throats. Thanks for the laughs

DecemberPlusFebruary · 01/08/2025 17:42

The protocol (disclaimer - I am not British): Maniacally cheery wave on first encounter.

Then: Whiteboard and pen for communication.

Next: Invite over for BBQ. That woman could be your new bestie.

If BBQ a failure, ornamental shotgun hung over window, large trees planted, dog acquired, chain link fence installed.

Good luck.

HappilyUrbanTrimmer · 01/08/2025 17:46

who owns the sliver of land I have shaded green in this copy of your diagram?

I suggest some bamboo if it's yours?

What is standard procedure when you are inside your house and you make eye contact with a neighbour who is in their house?
Maddy70 · 01/08/2025 17:46

Wave and smile

StarlightLady · 01/08/2025 17:47

Maddy70 · 01/08/2025 17:46

Wave and smile

Or flash your tits! 🤓

Maddy70 · 01/08/2025 17:48

Even better!

Cinaferna · 01/08/2025 17:52

Slatted blinds. You can still see your lovely view if they are angled right but you won't be offering her a full on view of you with a spatula in your mouth!

Otherwise I'd give her a quick nod and then move on.

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