Been invited to DH cousin’s wedding. The cousin is nice enough, DH isn’t close to them and we see them a few times a year at family events. DH has a large family and they are very much in each other’s pocket. A lot of drama and fuss is made over small problems. DH always stays out of the drama as do I, but one week or another there has usually been a falling out or something which is really minor. We live a few hours away from the main family and they don’t really make an effort with DH or I. None of them attended his birthday party last year or have came down to our kid’s birthdays or accepted our invites to Christmas. It’s always us that drives down to family events etc. It’s been going on for years so at this point I kind of expect them to decline anything we invite them to. Due to numbers, I’m only invited to the evening do. Fair enough they can invite who they want and I understand we aren’t that close. I would have at take AL due to me working shifts and arrange a hotel for two nights due to the location. I think it’s a lot of fuss just to go to the evening do and said to DH I don’t want to attend. He’s annoyed that he will have to go himself. I explained that I do not want to use my AL and make a lot of effort when for years they haven’t made an effort with us. It kind of just seems very hypocritical. We have been together 25 years and the last time the family came to visit us was our wedding over 20 years ago.