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Utterly sick of everything, don’t know how to carry on

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Burntout01 · 28/05/2025 19:47

50 years old and two years into menopause.
Chronic illness which could ramp up atcany time and eventually be life limiting. I ‘look’ fine though.
Chronic fatigue from the above plus hypothyroidism and unexplained ongoing B12 deficiency.
Two teenagers, one with high functioning ASD (academically gifted but complex personality) and younger teen has ADHD poor mental health, explosive and just swears at me daily. Both have v specific food requirements’ which I find increasingly impossible to navigate logistically and manage financially. Both under private therapy costing £££.
Husband with a big job, good man but has his own issues with MH ( likely undiagnosed neurodiversity) any dip in my mood seems to affect him massively which in turn exacerbates my bottling things up.
5 pets, one v expensive ( horse).
Professional job , healthcare which is emotionally draining but thankfully part time. Studying part time.
Thing thats tipped me over the edge is now a much loved elderly relative has had a crisis and been admitted to a care home, its not going well and I’m worrying constantly.
don’t know why I’m posting really, just needed to get it all out.

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repeatingabaselessclaim · 28/05/2025 22:12

You've got a lot going on OP.
I'm sorry to hear that your much loved elderly relative has been taken into care and is not doing well, that is an immediate worry for you and I'm sorry to hear it.
Sometimes that's all it takes to tip us over the edge as you've said.

Chronic illness, chronic fatigue, and worrying about your husband's MH is a lot to deal with, not to mention the ongoing upset of having your children suffering with their own health issues and the stress of being shouted at by your youngest, and not being able to feel free to speak to your husband for fear of setting him off too.

And you're studying also, what are you studying OP?
Do you enjoy it? Does it take you away from your problems for a little while or is it more you're studying for your work?
Do your pets help you to relax? I find mine provide a lot of comfort to me.

Well I haven't too much to offer you in the way of advice, it's easy for me to comment but it seems that you've reached a point where you would like to reach out to others and I do hope that you receive responses because Mumsnetters are a fabulous bunch of caring, compassionate and intelligent people, with a wealth of experience in living, and each has a unique and often practical way to make others feel better.
All the very best to you xx

Vinvertebrate · 28/05/2025 22:20

I absolutely hear you OP. Similar situation here - autistic DS who is extremely challenging, occasionally violent and only eats beige. I also have a rather volatile DH (with OCD and suspected ND) and my only other living relative is terminally ill. Life can be a bag of shit sometimes. No advice other than Keep Buggering On. X

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