What grudge are you holding?

[Grudgery]

Big or small. I’m stewing this evening and misery loves company.

Fortunately none,I've learned it achieves nothing and if someone has fucked me over I have nothing to do with them.
Prior to that I held a grudge against a line manager that made me redundant for five years.

Someone should behaved badly to me in 2003-4. I made sure she didn’t get a big. job she applied for twenty years on. Don’t fuck with me.

I never hold grudges usually. But I really am at the moment with the arsehole at work who complained about me when he is the problem and has been for years. Luckily everyone else knows it is him that is the problem and totally supported me. But he is now acting like everything is hunky dory, trying to have friendly chats etc, not taken any responsibility for the mess he has caused, and in my head I am screaming ‘FUCK OFF AND LEAVE’. And breathe 🤣

I’m so pissed off with our neighbours, I’m biding my time.

What's got to you this evening @Grudgery ?

Hmm currently ruminating on a certain someone who stomps around being spiteful to my kids and I under the guise of being helpful and "honest" (but actually being deliberately hurtful) putting up those posts on Facebook etc about how tragic it is being bullied or only being called when someone wants something etc etc the one that tipped me was be kind with your words because you don't know what people are going through this from the woman who called a bulimic person fat told a child with a diagnoses of social anxiety that they need to just get out there (he does for the most part but he didn't want to do what she wanted him to do) and asked loudly how we could understand a child with a speech impediment she was there for less than an hour ffs

I wouldn't say I hold a grudge....but I might because everyone thinks she is "lovely" you ask her to do something she says NO! or she yarps on about she will but she has to rearrange xyz and it will cause this to happen and go ON AND ON about it she will then do the favour everyone will praise her someone asks me to do something I do it if I can no trauma but for some reason people always prefer her? It's like oh unnamedcat gave you a lift? well yes but X really WANTED to she tried so much to do it awww that's so sweet of her to try like that how wonderful she is (she didnt do it I fucking did)

Not so much a grudge more definite resentment?

A particularly difficult period in my life was when my ex and his children moved into my flat. After ending the relationship, he refused to leave, effectively squatting in my home for 7 months.
Being heartbroken was one thing, but losing control of my own property nearly broke me. What still confuses me is why, after dumping me, he thought it was acceptable to jeopardize my financial stability too.
He did cover the mortgage, but I had previously been renting the flat out to cover costs. That income disappeared overnight.

@Tumblingthrough ooh I also have a bit of neighbour resentment. But what I was stewing over last night was a former friend, we did our nursing training together, she left the profession but we stayed in touch. After nearly 20 years being at the bedside (including two years of Covid ICU), I told her I was feeling burnt out and thinking of going to work for a biotechnology or pharmaceutical company. (Also for the pay as I’ve got children and she doesn’t). She then criticised me, saying those companies were heartless and I should just carry on and stop feeling sorry for myself. She said she couldn’t believe I would put money ahead of taking care of others. I gasped because she married a man for his money (literally he bought her a house despite her being not so keen on him!)

We’d been growing apart at that point already but that was really a turning point and the beginning of the end. I reckon there’s a bit of sadness because it’s never nice to lose a friend, but also it was just so appallingly rude! I suppose I don’t know if that counts as a grudge per se but somehow it was playing on my mind last night.

It sounds like a good career move for you and the change would be good. I suspect she may be jealous and deflecting and perhaps lacks the confidence to take that step herself.

Let it ride, do what’s best for you and see what happens.

She has no right to criticise your choices.
Good Luck!

The manager of a cafe near me was super rude to me in 2020 and I've never been there again and I never will. Whenever I drive past it I still feel a bit cross about how he treated us... probably need to get over it by now 😂

I don't have the memory to hold a grudge!

Fucking evil parasite neighbours and their equally vile spawn. Very long story, but not unfounded resentment. Would PMSL if a meteor crashed through their roof.

Also the Queen Bee only female in the group of guys my DH has been friends with since school. She has injected herself into everyone’s relationships and despite the fact that we’ve all been married off for over 20 years, carries on as though they are all madly in love with her and she knows them better than anyone else. Tellingly, she is the only single one (and not happily so) and hangs out with people in their early 20’s.

Year 7 teacher put my artwork on the back of the classroom door as opposed to on the classroom wall with the other children’s art because she didn’t like me and objected to the fact I’d made a quasi-political statement in said art. This was over 30 years ago and I’m still seething